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And don't have the self confidence to keep going.

I don't want much, (only to be fairly self-sufficient, not sadbrained, and maybe a cat if I'm lucky), but everytime I think I'm on my way to that I fuck up and feels like this is enough. What's the point of trying if all I'm good for is fucking up.

Years of therapy, meds, self help, and that fun stuff hasn't done me much good.

I really really don't want to be a burden on anyone. I feel like an embarrassment anytime I walk outside. I do nothing out of shame and distract myself anyway possible to keep from that shame. What's more embarrassing than being an adult loser who survives on mommy and daddy's dime. Basic conservation makes me uncomfortable. People can tell something's off about me and I get so self-conscious about it and it makes it worse. Got no marketable skills and what's the point if robots are gonna make us all jobless in 30 years. Nobody believes in me, it feels like.

inb4 kill yourself

Well, if you ever find out, let me know. Still struggling with this myself.

Anon, you will never 100% not fuck up. Fuck ups happen. Sometimes they're small and sometimes they are big. Everyone fucks up sometimes! And it is okay to be bummed out or sad or frustrated or angry.

Take it small. Some days you may need to dial it back. Try to take satisfaction in the small things. Did you eat some food today? Well done! Didn't? Okay a minor set back but you haven't fucked up. Just try again tomorrow. Put some socks on. Get some new socks. Go outside. Maybe have a coffee with a friend for 30 minutes.

The point of trying is that you keep trying. But it is also okay to take breaks! You don't need to try every day. You're allowed to have bad days and weeks. You're allowed to be stressed. Everyone has these days. Thing about people is they're pretty wrapped up in themselves and they rarely notice outside of them. You, me, everyone. Most are not going to notice if you're having an off day and if they do they're probably not thinking about it too much or they're wondering if they're the cause.

I hope you keep trying anon, in little ways and big ways. Sometimes you'll fuck up and sometimes you won't. But you're not a burden and struggling with this is something you should not be ashamed of.

*digital hugs if you want*

Serious answer. Hoard the resources you can and get out of your life a bit. I know it's a terrible cliché "of he left for Nepal to find himself etc", but it can help. And it does not have to be Nepal. My best friend's cousin basically got this deal where's she's pet-and house-sitting half the years for a small compensation, and basically her day consists of walking dogs at the beach and not seeing people.

The thing is out modern world can be pretty toxic. You parents are probably well-meaning, but it might do you good to just step out of it and clear your head for a while. It gives different perspective. If you had any offers from friends to stay over, take hem up on it now.

"fail at everything you do" = first assess if this is actually the case

Feeling like a failure and actually being a failure are two different things.

If you fail at something once, you try again. If the method you use fails, try another method.

Stop assuming what people are thinking about you, and better yet, stop caring. It sounds like it's kind of a distraction. Move away from the pity party; it's so easy to give up and say it's because you're "a loser," whether or not that's true.

I'm guessing the situation might be a little more complex than what you've told us. Honestly, I don't know if there's anything that can make you stop FEELING like a failure. Not to borrow callous anon's mantra from a few threads above, but the one thing you shouldn't do is be content with staying where you are. You have to find a way to move along. And stop getting distracted by all the haters. There's always going to be someone who isn't a fan of you, and they're not worth the tears.

Have you tried Cognitive Behavioral Therapy? I found a ten-week course of that to be way more helpful than years of talk therapy.

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