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I need to vent

I basically feel unemployable cause I have no skills and the last job I have almost gave me a mental breakdown cause of the stress of doing it and going to school full time, and I ended up quitting in a really shitty way that I don't even like to talk about cause it literally fills me with so much shame, but I desperately need money to get me through the last semester of university, cause I didn't get as much financial aid for this semester (which I normally kind of live off.)

and so I am looking at jobs, just little minimum wage ones on campus, and I asked my gf if she thought I could do one that I thought looked interesting and she basically said no. And she probably isn't even wrong, and now I am feeling super shitty about myself.

I probably should have just killed myself when I had enough money to pay for my funeral, but I don't even have that anymore

Does your school have counselors? Because it sounds like you really need one, both for the depression and to help you figure out what sort of load you're really equipped to handle.

Yes but they are very unhelpful with the depression - I have gone to them before. And as for the load, it doesn't matter, I have exactly one semester of credits I need left to graduate, and I need a way to earn money. Neither of these are negotiable.

I know uni counselors aren't always the best, but give them another try. They might be able to direct you to a clinic that can help you with depression. Just tell them what's going on.

Also, if working on campus is an option, apply for all the jobs you think you can do. Working on campus is usually low stress; they need workers who can sort things and carry mail back and forth, or if you find something in your major, you can help out in that department.

I'm not a counselor, but part of depression is thinking that you 'aren't' good enough. So it makes sense that you're feeling this way. Hang in there and try your on campus resources (even ask for a referral).

Unfortunately I really can't afford a clinic at the moment, and the last time I talked to them they basically told me that was all they could do at this point, was refer me. I need a job so I can afford groceries, I can't afford medical expenses.

and I want to get an on campus job, but most of what is open atm that I am eligible (I can't drive) is food service which I know everyone says is usually very stressful. The one I was looking at was a tour guide position for my department, but gf thinks I'm not sociable enough for that. I thought I could fake it, but maybe she's right. I'm not very sociable after all.

Any library jobs open? I worked in several different capacities in campus libraries in college it was pretty low-key, especially since I took Friday and Saturday evening shifts when the library was really dead. I had to reshelve books and things, but I also had time to sit at the circulation desk and study.

Not much right now, but I think they post job listings closer to the fall semester starting. I also heard they get a lot of applications usually (probably cause of what you mentioned) but it would be cool if I could get something like that. Idk. I am still feeling shitty about my prospects.

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If you really want a foot in the door for a library job, volunteering helps. I started volunteering at a college library, which turned in getting hired a few weeks later when they had an opening.

Not that that helps you right now (sorry), but keep it in mind.

What kind of food service? I worked in my college's cafeteria for three years as the person who swiped meal cards. That's literally all I did. Other people pretty much just prepped salad stuff, replenished the salad bar and put stuff away/cleaned at the end of the night.

Seriously, actually go and look into these jobs. Don't just assume you can't do it because you don't think you can or because somebody else has made up their mind about what that job is or if you can do it.

If it helps I know there are foodservice jobs that don't involve interacting with the public. I was a dishwasher for a while on campus. Most of my co-workers were pretty chill. It was busy but not overwhelming.

Maybe your girlfriend is a bad girlfriend. And wrong. And a butt.

I don't think she's wrong. The position was for a tour guide and I am not sociable. Like, I'm actually okay at public speaking if i have an outline (I think, I don't do it often) but I am bad at one on one stuff, and I guess that''s part of being a tour guide i didn't think about. I feel like all jobs you have to be good at talking to people though, so it sucks. I suck.

No you don't. Stop trying to make us and yourself think you do.

Talk to the department that hires tour guides. Pretty much every docent and tour guide I've seen essentially has a script that they go through, deviating ocassionally to answer a question. -- and usually are giving tours to a group. So, can you memorize stuff and spit it back out at people? You can probably be a tour guide. But let the tour guide place be the one to tell you if you can't. And if they think you can't, it's not a personal judgment against you. Not everybody is a good fit for every job, and that's okay.

Anon, tour guides are basically public speaking. You're not socialising, you have a mental script and occasionally answer questions.

Go speak to the ppl offering the job. Give it a try, you'll learn something no matter what way, get money and practice your ppl skills.

Signed

The introvert who was a tour guide and has worked in a call centre and in 2 weeks teaching 30 ppl a software system. Each experience prepared me for the next. It's still hard but sometimes you gotta take a chance.

Echoing the above, the tour guides almost certainly have a script to follow; at the very least, a list of detailed bullet points to be sure to mention. From their POV, you want to ensure your guides are a) addressing the points that need to be addressed, and b) providing correct information. And then you do it by the book over and over, and then you finally start percolating some jokes to insert, or whatever, because you know your script backwards and forwards, and guess what, most people don't take tours more than once, so you get to re-use anything you come up with.

I can do public speaking as a shy awkward introvert, and even outreach for my job, because I know exactly what info needs to be said -- there's no room for trying to make awkward one-on-one small talk. I'm sure being a dazzling social butterfly wouldn't hurt, but not being one hasn't been a hindrance in that context.

I see tour guides at my school every day. They are always leading a group, not guiding single students, and they obviously have a pre-set itinerary and a script--not much different from having an outline; you just need to practice enough to get it by heart.

Good luck, OP.

You are literally me fifteen years ago. Except I didn't even have a girlfriend.

I wish I could tell you it gets better. Well, in my case I got worse first.

But I found out there are free counsellors for people in that kind of situation, even if the industry like to make you think there aren't.

Apply at stores (grocery or big box most likely) and fast food. Not glamorous, but it'll get you through a semester.

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