[ SECRET POST #3496 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3496 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

I think a lot of the more recent and popular sexual orientations seems really fake and contrived to me. I'm not going to take anyone who identifies as demi sexual seriously.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[sparrow_lately]

Something something something Foucalt proliferation of perversions something something Donna Harraway /falls back asleep

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

I'm never going to take it seriously either. It is such a stupid concept that I can't wait for it to go away.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

Same. Why can't believe just identify as asexual, bi, straight, or gay like the good 'ol days?

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

While I can buy that demi - as very strictly defined as "unable to feel sexual attraction AT ALL without first forming an emotional attachment" and not anything to do whether one only has sex with people one cares for - is a *thing*, it's just not something anyone gives a shit about. You're still straight/gay/bi (but presumably not ace) and no one cares about the circumstances under which you feel sexual attraction because there's nothing we can do with that information.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

I'm loathe to join this thread, but what do you "do with" the information when you find out somebody is bi or gay? And the propensity for talking about sex lives/sexually attractive /people they want to bang seems awfully high in a lot of social groups, which is alienating for the person who doesn't feel that.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT, but it shouldn't be alienating unless the person allows themselves to be alienated. Presumably, they're part of said social group for a reason, and have other things to talk about. Treat it like any other thing that your friends are into that you're meh about -- let them gush and offer an opinion if you've got one or smile and nod until the subject changes. If you're standing around huffy and offended because other people have sex drives, then I've got no sympathy. That's the sexual equivalent of the person who has to loudly state "I don't have to drink to have fun" when someone offers them a beer at a party. Don't make an issue out of something that isn't one.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

You know whether or not it's worth pursuing an attraction to them, for one thing. There have been times when I've thought a guy was really cute and fun and was preparing to ramp up the flirting because I was interested in maybe going on a date or two, only to find out that he was gay. Once I knew that, I knew there was no point in flirting because it wasn't going to go anywhere.

Re: Controversial/Unpopular Opinions

[(Anonymous)]

Don't think of it as an "orientation" so much as a "personality quirk." I think demisexuality is a real thing, but it doesn't have the same political significance we've attached to "lesbianism."

Then again, political lesbianism, as opposed to just being WSW, is kind of kooky, so maybe it would be better if just let sexual orientation be psychological quirks, and pull back from the identity part.