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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2016-08-04 06:42 pm
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⌈ Secret Post #3501 ⌋

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[personal profile] kallanda_lee 2016-08-04 10:52 pm (UTC)(link)
You might be right, but I think that's just how things go? Recently I feel I just drifted apart with a lot of friends cause the moved into a different life phase. And yeah, it hurts. And yeah, it feels like betrayal if you see them on Facebook with someone else and you wonder: "wasn't I a good enough friend?"

But, I think people tend to gravitate towards people who have a lot in common with them, partly just for practicality's sake often. I wish it wasn't that way, but it's a very common phenomenon.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:01 pm (UTC)(link)
not OP but as someone who's recently drifted from friends, especially my best friend I think I needed to hear this. thank you
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[personal profile] kallanda_lee 2016-08-04 11:09 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm glad it helped :)
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[personal profile] caerbannog 2016-08-05 03:03 am (UTC)(link)
Pretty much this :) good luck op

[personal profile] mrs_don_draper 2016-08-04 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
Why do you so badly want to remain friends with someone who sounds like a jerk you had few things/nothing in common with?
Edited 2016-08-04 23:15 (UTC)

(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:18 pm (UTC)(link)
Why does she sound like a jerk to you?

(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:20 pm (UTC)(link)
Bc all republicans have devil horns.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:21 pm (UTC)(link)
Ah of course.
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[personal profile] ariakas 2016-08-04 11:23 pm (UTC)(link)
The more times you vote Republican, the larger your horn grows.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:06 am (UTC)(link)
Good to know.

Also if you vote third party, you're throwing away your vote & letting "them" win (whoever "they" are in this case).

Fun times
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[personal profile] ariakas 2016-08-05 12:11 am (UTC)(link)
Well in a two party system that is actually kind of true; one of the myriad reasons two party systems are shitty and broken and borderline undemocratic.

We The North manage to keep three-four reasonably successful parties afloat at any given time, but the Liberals and Conservatives are the two mains, for sure. But supposedly we're getting electoral reform to remove our dated, broken first-past-the-post system in the next couple of years.

But we vote for parties rather than a leader. The party itself picks the leader.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 11:32 am (UTC)(link)
In Canada we have a four party system (used to be five until Harper, comic book villain that he is, merged the two right leaning/conservative parties into one), but it's basically the left/liberal side being split 3 ways against one party that represents the conservatives. It's such a broken, unfair system that it makes me long for America's two party system tbh.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:13 am (UTC)(link)
you joke but there's no part of their contemporary platform within the last couple decades that isn't horrible, at least when it comes to social issues.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:48 am (UTC)(link)
You, on the other hand, sound very tolerant and open-minded.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:54 am (UTC)(link)
Tolerate my intolerance!

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 07:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Look, it's fine for you to say "the other side is made up of horrible, horrible people" but it's reductionism at its worst and everyone does it. They literally just decide the other side is horrible bc "they hate gays/women/progress" or "they support killing babies" or whatever you believe. You put it the way that makes your opponents (who believe differently) in the worst possible way. You've decided that everyone is divided into two categories of politics (or is some weirdo in a third party etc)., and they are "good" or "evil." It ignores the fact that people are complicated, we're more insulting people than actually discussing beliefs when we do that...and NOTHING CHANGES. Because to the Dems the Republicats are evil warmongers who hate teh gays, and to Reps the Demogratz are evil babykillers who want to destroy the economy.

NOTHING CHANGES.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-04 11:26 pm (UTC)(link)
From your secret, it sounds to me like your fandoms made up most of your common interests; otherwise, you indicated that "we're not very alike" and are even "polar opposites" when it comes to politics. Seems like the new friend may have more in common on multiple fronts.

Of course, it sucks when a friendship withers and dies when you're not ready for it to do so, and it's even harder to see a replacement friend move in, but I think you've already highlighted the areas where you didn't really fit together. Hugs for you, if you want 'em.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 02:13 am (UTC)(link)
This. If the two of them share more common ground than just fandoms, it makes sense that they'll probably end up talking more - they have more to talk about.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:19 am (UTC)(link)
I kinda know how you feel. I'm not a poc, but I do know the whole "replacement friend" thing pretty well. When I went away to college, my main friend group made friends with another person in my place that's a lot more similar to them than I am. And while it's not like they've completely ignored me, it's pretty obvious that they like hanging out with her and they usually don't want me to tag along if she's there. :/
They're not even mean or rude about it or anything, but it's definaitly a vibe I get and I can't really do anything about it without sounding entilited and jealous.

Anyways, sorry that happened to you. Your "friend" doesn't sound super appealing tbh so maybe you're just better off without her.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 12:51 am (UTC)(link)
Well it's probably true that if you were a middle-class white woman who voted Republican you would still befriends with her. The better question, though, is: why would you want to?

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 02:24 am (UTC)(link)
I daresay that if you were a middle-class Black woman who voted Republican you'd still be friends with her.

(Anonymous) 2016-08-05 03:37 am (UTC)(link)
Despite what Hollywood would like you to believe, relationships run their course. Friendships wax and wane and that's normal and healthy. And I know it hurts because it's easy to feel like you've failed, that if a friendship doesn't last forever it's not worth having.

It'll hurt for a while, but that's ok. Don't get caught up too hard in maybes because they'll just eat at you.
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