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⌈ Secret Post #3546 ⌋

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Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

I don't want to change things because I don't want to be less smart, but I really wish people would stop calling me smart all the time. I feel like the expectations are higher for me than people around me who don't get called smart all the time, and I'm not allowed to fail. If I do fail, I feel I have to feel bad about it and work harder to fix it. Also, I was never the top of my class or prone to amazing bursts of genius or creativity, so I don't understand where everyone is getting their basis for comparison from.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

I totally understand this one.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[sarillia]

This was me all through high school. People acted like I was some kind of genius and it was really weird because I don't know where they got that idea and it put a lot of pressure on me. I literally had someone gasp in shock once when I answered a question wrong. It sounds like I'm making that up but I swear I'm not. I have no idea how things got that ridiculous.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[kallanda_lee]

Yeah, I know I have a high IQ - but when people say this it usually does not bode well. Either it means they want something from me, or that the think I'm stuck up (which has more to do with the fact I'm an introvert and keep to myself).

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[herpymcderp]

I also get this pretty frequently and I really don't like it.

It's mostly because I prepared, you know? I read that article. I thought of something to say before we held this meeting. I did the research and I did the homework and now I feel like I can confidently speak about a topic. When you bother to do that it just gets stupidly easy to put two and two together. It's seriously the rarest thing ever for me to be providing an answer because I thought it up on the spot and it was correct.

I get really bothered by people implying or outright calling me a genius because of it. I'm really not. It also implies that what I'm doing isn't due to hard work because being a "genius" means you must be effortlessly intelligent.

This seriously could not be further from the truth.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

When you find doing that pretty manageable ... Prepping yourself appropriately, and retaining your preparations well enough that you can utilize them fully in the moment, it is easy to overestimate others' ability to do the same. I assure you, that is a function of your intelligence that you reliably can prep yourself for your day - it is way more challenging for most people.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[herpymcderp]

I never really considered that, honestly.

IRL I usually just kind of assume my colleagues are about as good at prep as I am, and are just generally following suit. I know they definitely make time for it.

...I feel like the real reason is there's probably a disconnect between theory and practice for some people, like... they know the theory but haven't really extrapolated it to a real situation or an experiment yet? Because I usually get the "you're a genius" comments when I suggest an assay, but really I'm just applying x test that I happen to know does x thing.

idk. I don't mean to sound like I'm bragging here. I'm really just thinking out loud. My powers of retention are absolutely less developed compared to some people I know. I can't memorize a hundred terms in a single evening. Hat's off to people who can. ...I'm just pretty good at figuring how to apply things.

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

*high five* me too! Although at this stage in my life it's less smart (because everyone in my grad program is) and more being in control. We were having an organizational meeting for a group I'm in and talking about titles and a bunch of people were joking that I should be sergeant-at-arms because I'm so on top of things and commanding, and I know it was meant as a compliment but inside I was like "Ha ha, good thing I'm not crying every night over my future job situation, OH WAIT."

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

My telephone voice/manner.

Also, people want me with them when they have to do something tough. Not because they think I'll be supportive, but because it'll intimidate the other person into treating them better. Apparently I'm scary AF and can use it for good. Or evil. 0.~

Re: What's something people compliment you on...

[(Anonymous)]

Woops, misfire!