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[ SECRET POST #3549 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3549 ⌋

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[Fire Emblem Fates]

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[Stellan Skarsgård in River]

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[Labyrinth]

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[Mr. Clarke from Stranger Things]

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[Criminal Minds]

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When people don't respond to your texts, when clearly the text needed a response.

Like when you invite someone out or ask them a time-sensitive question.

I'm the sort of person who might just check their phone once a day - so, while I do get this, I have the opposite frustration: people asking me time sensitive stuff if I might just not see it in that time frame.

If I know that about you, that's one thing. I know one friend who can't touch her phone at all during work so I expect texts from her only during lunch hour or after work.

I texted my sister Friday morning to invite her over to dinner this Thursday. My mom saw her Monday and told her let me know, just respond yes or no the text. She responded this morning.

She also is never far from her phone, especially not 5 days!

5 days would be excessive even for me!

This isn't the first time she's done this.

Yeah, I can see why you'd be annoyed :(

(If you can't tell, it's just general life frustrations all around today, thanks for listening to me vent!)

Really hate this. Happened to me a few days ago: a friend who's living several hours away was asking after a very short termed date to meet up (so it wasn't a spontaneous short trip) and then never responded to my reply. Asked if she was too busy to reply and got the charming answer "Oh no, I read the message you wrote, I just didn't feel like answering". What the hell? You wanted the meet up! A simple reply should have been in your own interest.

Ironically, she is a person who keeps whining that nobody stays in contact with her. Gee I wonder why.

Her response back was incredibly rude too!

It's why I've lost a few friends, I'll reach out only so many times but when you don't respond, I give up after several tries. I don't have the time/energy to constantly be the one to contact you.

That last bit takes the cake. Is she whining on facbeook and looking for attention? Because I know people like that too.

On twitter, but yeah, it's pretty annoying. See I'm not great at keeping in contact either, but I understand that if I want to keep friends - especially those not living near so you can't occasionally meet up on a whim- I need to communicate with them. I'm definitely not someone who does the whole "I contacted you the last time so it's your turn to contact me" but you can't just pin all the "starting up a conversation" on the other person all the time. Now this friend, she is the kind of person who will whine on twitter several tweets at a time how lonely she is, how much people distance themselves from her and how nobody every talks to her. Yet she very, very rarely initiates contact. The most infuriating thing is that she is completely aware of it, but doesn't change her behaviour.

I actually do suspect that her whining is partly trying to guilt trip people into contacting her again. But really, if she spent the time simply writing a message to one of her friends instead of putting out 20-30 whine tweets, her situation would be improving already...

I'm not about the whole well I contacted you last time, now it's your turn, I'm talking about friends where you will contact them and they say they are busy, so you ask them when they are free and they say they'll contact you. You do this same thing 3 or 4 times before deciding it's too much.

Or one friend will always agree to hang out but when it's always me asking her, after doing this for over a year, it's frustrating to always be the friend to make plans.

She's a friend I would have lost by now and unfollowed because I don't put up with that.

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