[ SECRET POST #3582 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3582 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries]


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[Daredevil, Wilson Fisk/Vanessa Marianna]


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[Overwatch]


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[Mob Psycho 100]


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[Malcolm in the Middle]


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Comments

[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

Tell her, and deal with the mopeyness. I've been here before, and it's honestly more emotionally taxing to try to spare feelings than it is to just admit the truth of the matter. People and priorities change, and even if you want to RP like you used to, it's sometimes just not feasible. If she can't deal with that, it's on her.

[(Anonymous)]

If she can't deal with that, it's on her.

This, +1000

[herpymcderp]

Well, having been through something similar quite recently, it's really just best to be forthright. If you don't have time, you don't have time.

It's unfortunate, but sometimes irl duties have to come first. Maybe you can pick up rping on breaks or do short plot arcs if you have some spare time, but it's only going to turn out badly if you just kind of stop showing up or try to make hollow excuses. If you don't want your partner to assume they did something wrong, just tell them the truth.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm done because I don't have the time or energy now that I'm attending 6 college classes and have a job.

It's not that difficult, and you have very valid reasons to drop the rp, anyone would understand and sympathize with you.

[(Anonymous)]

If you enjoy RPing with them still but just aren't finding the time to do it as much as you did before school/work, while I think you need to be honest with them, maybe set aside time once a week for a post?

(I don't know exactly how you RP, my friend and I used to lock LJ posts that only we could see.)

I know you're busy with 'adult' things, but it's also never good to give up all hobbies completely, you should always have something that you enjoy during down times and that allows you to unwind.

On the other hand, if RPing with this person is just adding to your stress, maybe this isn't the thing you want to keep.

[dinogrrl]

What everyone else said. Better just to say it now and deal with her mope/let her get her mope out than to let it fester into bad feelings on both sides. At least then there'll be honesty and a place to start from if you want to figure out smaller rps in the future.

It always sucks to have to say 'no' but it is a life skill worth learning.

[(Anonymous)]

like, shit, man, anyone who's going to try to pout-guilt you into RPing when you have a full class load plus a job is a jerk. You don't owe their moping anything, just be polite and shut er down.

but if you really want to keep RPing, change formats. instead of using a chat program or gdocs or something where the other person can see when you're online (and typing), use DW or a forum or email. Post on your time. Even if that means one tag (response) a day, then so be it. You can still keep up a long and satisfying thread that way if you really want to.

[(Anonymous)]

Just tell her in pretty much the same words you've told us: you can't keep up the pace and complexity because of your college classes and job. You made your promise in good faith, but you just can't do it and still keep up the same quality so you're done.

If she's a reasonable person, she'll understand. If she's not a reasonable person, then screw her.

[(Anonymous)]

just tell her, dude. it's rude to string someone along when you're not into it.

[(Anonymous)]

How do you tell her you're done? You fucking tell her you're done. That's it.

[(Anonymous)]

Just tell her straight out, no excuses, no promising stuff you can't deliver just to soften the blow. The longer you wait and the more foot-shuffling you do only makes her think that eventually you'll be back in the game. Just tell her bluntly, make a clean break and end it.

[(Anonymous)]

I had a sort of similar situation. I did the awful thing and just stopped talking to them and created new account under a different name. I mean, I was in recovery from a suicide attempt and they were so negative and often left me back handed comments....it was too much at the time to confront them. I wish I had been able to, but that might not have been realistic.

There are times in life when you just have to look out for you, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Tell her because it's better than just disappearing. Friends are better to keep than lose.

[(Anonymous)]

Why would she have to "get the hint" if you promised to continue RPing with her?

Just tell her you're done. Don't string it out. It never ends well for anyone.

I've been on the receiving end of wanting to play something with someone who just wasn't into it (or didn't have the time to be into it) and it sucks to be excited about something and be playing with someone who isn't. It comes across in the writing and can lead to bitterness on both sides.

Heck, it's why I mostly do memes now. No strings attached and if I run out of steam on something, nobody's going to be upset (probably) if I let the thread drop. By the same token, if somebody drops me, it's no skin off my back either.

OP

[(Anonymous)]

For any readers curious about how this went out, it went very well! She totally understood, I just got worried over nothing- there was no moping (yaaay!)