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I'm 36 years old and I've never worn make up and haven't the first clue how to apply it. Not even something basic like eyeliner or lipstick. What about you, what adulting skills have you missed out on learning?

LIpstick = put it on your lips

but seriously that's about as far as I can go too.

I'm slowly learning how to do my makeup, but I always end up looking like a clown and my teenage little sister always has to fix it for me. My parents taught me many useful adulting things, but I know very little about fixing cars and that's mainly my fault because my dad did teach me, but I hate driving and cars in general, so I didn't pay as much attention as I should have.

24 and I've never changed a tire or a diaper

Small talk? Like... I don't know where I was supposed to learn that lesson or whether my personality type is predisposed to not being able to hold a conversation unless it has inherent value/a real topic.

I hate small talk too. Which is why social media drives me nuts most of the time. (And I hate that LJ is going that way. I don't care that you bought food for your cat. I want to know if you think there might be life on the new planets NASA just found.)

nayrt

But that could be small talk, with the right people. Part of learning the art of making casual conversation is tailoring it to the person you're talking to, though.

I love small talk. You see a lot of people harsh on it online, but it's such an amazing thing. I don't want to have deep serious discussions with clients or coworkers or strangers. Sometimes I just want to talk about the weather or Did you hear about X? or just chat about whatever with another human being. It's all about making a connection.

If you actually want to work on it, it can be done and just takes time and thoughtfulness. It's about paying attention to the other person. There are probably a million and one online guides if you want.

I also suck at makeup! And anything to do with my hair. I can put it in a ponytail but that is it.

If you can put on lip balm, you can put on lipstick. Use a mirror and touch up if you get it outside your lipline. But it's the easiest makeup to apply, imo.

Putting it on isn't that hard. Keeping it on the lips and off the teeth can be slightly trickier. Finding a shade that's somewhere comfortably in between "same color as my actual lips" and "clown prostitute" -- now, there's the challenge.

I legit have never been able to get lipstick on my teeth in my life. I keep checking since I became aware that was apparently a common danger, but it doesn't happen. I don't know how people do it.

Just check afterward and wipe it off if you do get some on your teeth?

...It's not like they're applying lipstick to their teeth. It transfers afterwards when they, like, talk and stuff? You're probably one of the folks who just doesn't move their mouth very much. Deaf people hate it, but your makeup stays where it's supposed to.

Hmm, seems to me like you'd have to be in the habit of pursing or biting your lips for that happen. I don't do either. Anyway, a nude shade or a very matte lipstick that goes and stays on should mitigate the issue.

Also no idea about make-up. Or hair. Or grown-up clothes. Fortunately these days most workplaces are fine with jeans because otherwise I'd be screwed.

Ugh, grown up clothes. Maybe I'm just looking in all the wrong places, but grown up clothing either looks hideous, boring, or a combination of both. I want to wear things that are quirky and cute, not dull and uniform. Thankfully, my workplace only cares that I show up on time wearing clean clothes and no open-toed shoes.

Ironing. When I do iron, it ain't pretty.

Me too. I can't iron to save my life.

I can iron, but don't bother most of the time. Hanging the clothes in the bathroom while you take a shower or a couple of minutes in a hot dryer with a wet dish towel works good enough for government work.

If interested, Youtube is great for tutorials. (I learned how to do a perfect smoky eye this way, but I'm sure they have the basics as well.)

I can't figure out how to not have eyeshadow bunch up in the crease. I've tried all sorts of primers and things and it still does it. I just don't bother with eyeshadow.

I don't know how to change a car tire or jump start a battery, and I learned to drive in the mid-90s.

Anything involving buying a house, even though I really need to do that within the next couple of years.

My tips for buying a house:
1. Wait to do it until you can afford a comfortable down payment + closing costs. You don't want to completely wipe out your savings for this, and you also don't want to put so little down that you get a sucky rate or get stuck with extra fees. Month-to-month, a house should cost less than rent, but one-time large expenses will pop up occasionally.

2. Talk to other people in your area who have bought a house and get their recommendations for things like realtors, home inspectors, and mortgage firms.

3. Make an honest list of "must haves," vs. "would like to haves," and stick with the must haves. You might not be able to find your dream home, but you don't want to settle on something that's going to piss you off or seriously inconvenience you because you panicked.

Doing hair. I can't do anything more complex than a low ponytail or some crappy pigtails.

Will never see 30 again. Afraid to flatiron my hair.

Personally -- as someone who has worn make-up on a daily basis at certain points in my life -- I think eyeliner is the trickest one.

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