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(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:05 am (UTC)(link)
does it make any sense that, in canada, a woman who survived breast cancer (went through treatment) has to now move out of her house and sell her things because she wasn't able to work and couldn't afford to remain in her living situation?

this woman is my grandmother by the way. my grandfather's business fell flat, which happens, but now because he's the only one providing... they just can't afford it.

but is this right? is this normal? they have us, and we're gonna get through this as a family, but I just feel like it's so ridiculous and wrong, she didn't choose to have cancer

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:08 am (UTC)(link)
It's not right, but it is the reality of the system we've chosen, the policies we've endorsed, the people we've put into power, as a society. It's a priority we've chosen not to care about.

[personal profile] mrs_don_draper 2017-03-07 12:14 am (UTC)(link)
It's not right, and I'm very sorry. <3

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:23 am (UTC)(link)
It sucks, and I'm sorry but life isn't and never will be fair.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:31 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sure they had so thanks for telling them! Next time they'll know to keep their mouth shut to avoid showing the world that they are an idiot who thinks like is always fair.

Maybe it would be better if you could just kick people in the face until they shut up or something, every time they talk about something that's upsetting them. Then you wouldn't have to deal with reminding them that life isn't fair every time they obviously forget that and show it by stupidly opening their mouths.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:43 am (UTC)(link)
Things like this happening are not the result of some kind of cosmic coincidence. They are the result of decisions we've made and systems we've built. You can't just throw up your hands and say, hey, you know, misery happens, when it is the concrete result of a system.

It's possible to say that the system we've built is the best possible system even if it does have consequences like this. But for Pete's sake defend it on that ground, and not on the ground that it's a result of some kind of naturally-ordained necessity.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:49 am (UTC)(link)
Well said. Thank you.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:46 am (UTC)(link)
You're a fucking moron.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
I'm sorry. This stuff makes me really scared of getting sick like that.

Also sorry if you end up getting any dicks in this thread.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 01:38 am (UTC)(link)
couldn't afford to remain in her living situation?

Unfortunately this happens to a lot of people, with or without the cancer, so I'm not sure how it's overly relevant?

It totally sucks though and things definitely need to change when it comes to supporting people who are in dire straits due to unforeseen circumstances, especially since presumably as your grandparents, they're not really of an age to just pop out and get new jobs.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 02:39 am (UTC)(link)
Unfortunately this happens to a lot of people, with or without the cancer, so I'm not sure how it's overly relevant?

She can't work because she developed cancer and went through treatment, how is that difficult to understand lol

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 04:05 am (UTC)(link)
Nayrt

That was not clear at all. Lots of people go through cancer treatment and are still able to work, often at the same job they had before. My mother did it 3 times. I'm sorry about the situation your grandparents are in, but I was confused, too.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 04:13 am (UTC)(link)
nayrt, but how is it difficult to understand that ayrt is pointing out that being unable to "afford to remain in her living situation...happens to a lot of people, with or without the cancer". Yes, she had cancer and couldn't work, and now she can't afford her past lifestyle. When you can't afford your current lifestyle, whether it's from loss of work or overspending or whatever, you have to downsize, just like all of the rest of us.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 11:00 am (UTC)(link)
Nayrt, but how is it difficult to understand that getting cancer, or experiencing any other debilitating circumstances outside of your control that prevent you from working is completely different to having to downsize because you're overspending. .

That's not the point anon above you was trying to make either.

Good grief.

OP

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 05:05 am (UTC)(link)
My grandmother was a caretaker at a daycare, and she couldn't do that while going through treatment for many reasons. There are other reasons she couldn't return, as well. Sorry for being unclear, I'm really not up for discussing personal detail of the situation. I was more ranting about the system.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 01:58 am (UTC)(link)
Has she applied for social service assistance, or looked into getting a disability supplement in addition to pension? The social safety net isn't perfect, but there are definitely measures in place to help someone recover from loss of work due to illness.

(Anonymous) 2017-03-07 01:21 pm (UTC)(link)
At least in Cabada, her treatment gets paid for, right?

(Anonymous) 2017-03-08 02:20 am (UTC)(link)
It's not right. Not right at all. But it is scarily common. All it takes is one, single major illness or accident, and someone's way of life can collapse like a house of cards.

I've had to weather things like this several times (head injury, car accident, severe medication reaction). The adjustment period is horrible, but eventually you learn how to deal. And after enough times, you end up sighing, "Not this again." It ultimately gets easier, even though it doesn't feel like that in the moment.

There's a saying: "Bad things happen to good people", but I would also add the corollary that those who struggle the most happen to end up being the nicest, just in my personal experience.

I really hope the transition doesn't end up being too terrible or drawn-out. *sends positive vibes*
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