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I don't understand why people continue to follow tumblrs that upset and/or annoy them.

I probably should. She's a friend-of-an-IRL-friend, so I haven't yet, since I didn't want that drama, but reality is, will she even notice one person unfollowing?

will she even notice one person unfollowing?

No.

Yeah, I just went an unfollowed her. Wish I had earlier, but anxiety fucks your brain up, and I got paranoid She'd Know, you know?

I got paranoid She'd Know, you know?

I do not. I don't care if people know I unfollowed them or not because I don't take tumblr seriously. I once had someone message me asking why I unfollowed them, and I blocked them without replying. It just doesn't matter.

Did you miss the part where anon said the woman was a friend of an IRL friend?

Even if someone doesn't take tumblr overly seriously, that doesn't mean they want to deal with the real world fallout if Little Miss Persecution Complex throws a sobbing fit to their mutual pal. Which is a pretty common MO for the performative victims of the world.

If someone is going to start crying over losing a tumblr follower, then it's a good idea to get out. Seriously, you'd have to be a nutcase to (a) know someone unfollowed you, (b) track down who unfollowed you, and (c) cry about it to an IRL person.

You're being really judgy and pushy for someone who doesn't know anon's actual situation very well. Maybe let them make their own decisions?

This isn't the first time or the first site where I've seen people complaining about easily avoidable situations, and I'm honestly just tired of it. If I seem judgey and pushy, it's intentional.

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diet_poison - 2017-03-08 14:16 (UTC) - Expand

Wow, nutcase? Really?

I use friend or follow to check if a mutual has unfollowed me. It's free and easy to use--and someone like the op is worried about probably uses that. And it tells you which blogs you follow that don't follow you, mutuals and fans (blogs which follow you but you don't follow) and does so in a matter of minutes, so it doesn't really take that much. I don't care if non-mutuals unfollow me, I unfollow blogs all the time. But if a mutual unfollows me, then, I'll unfollow them.

And just because YOU think tumblr is a joke, doesn't mean everybody else does. You're a bit of jerk for being so dismissive about this, especially as there is possible RL fall out for op. Although I will say I'm not surprised....

I use friend or follow to check if a mutual has unfollowed me. It's free and easy to use--and someone like the op is worried about probably uses that. And it tells you which blogs you follow that don't follow you, mutuals and fans (blogs which follow you but you don't follow) and does so in a matter of minutes, so it doesn't really take that much. I don't care if non-mutuals unfollow me, I unfollow blogs all the time. But if a mutual unfollows me, then, I'll unfollow them.

That is incredibly neurotic.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-03-08 02:27 (UTC) - Expand

I notice when people unfollow me on both tumblr and instagram. I'm not obsessively watching my numbers, but they're low enough that a loss of one (or a gain of one) is noticeable. Really not that unusual to notice those types of things.

It just sounds like you don't really understand Human Emotions and how people work.

You're right. I'm actually a robot.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-03-08 08:27 (UTC) - Expand

You're being kind of a jerk to anon here. I'm saying that for anon's sake, not yours.

I getcha. That's honestly why it took me so long to unfollow a couple of friendly acquaintances lol. But I found tumblr much less stressful after that, and unless you interact with her a lot, she probably won't even notice being unfollowed, especially if she's just a friend of a friend.

I hope not lol. Maybe I'll get lucky, and she'll just assume that it was a porn bot that got de-activated.

But yeah, I don't really talk to her a lot, so that does help.

Also, to add, this only recently started happening, since the inauguration, before she was chill, so that's another reason why it's hard to pull the trigger. :/

I honestly think you're overthinking this. What is difficult about clicking your mouse?

What's so difficult about understanding that other people have anxieties your fortunate not to have?

^ That wasn't me, the OP, btw. But yeah, anxiety is fucked, and I hate it.

I have anxiety too. But I've found that the best way to get over that fear is to face it an realize that I'm the one in control. I'm not saying that that's easy, but tumblr and other non-face to face situations are a good place to practice doing that.

Ok Dr. Draper.

I laughed.

It is pretty laughable.

Me either. Life's too short for that mess.

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