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I usually would post something like this anon or not post at all. But I am stressed and upset.

As a lot of people may know, I hate my job. Today we had a company meeting that culminated after an argument between two employees about parking spots. He said we would now have assigned parking spots and we need to respect each other. This is all fine.

BUT THEN, in front of all 13 of my co-workers he goes, "And if anyone is unhappy working here, I am talking about you Kaijin Lastname, feel free to quit. Just do it professionally and give two weeks notice." I was fucking humiliated and immediately started tearing up.

The meeting concluded and I went back to my machine. He came back there and asked if everything was okay. I actually got up the nerve to confront him (I am a very passive person) and told him that it wasn't. That even if I am miserable it is completely unprofessional to call out an employee like that in front of their co-workers. He gave me one of those, "I'm sorry YOU were offended apologies".

I then basically let out all this shit (politely but through tears in my voice) that has been building up (I think it is BS we can only use the bathroom 3 times a day, that I was not hired for this job and it isn't fair that I am the ONLY employee forced to do a job I was not hired for, that my cousin [his wife and my sort of boss] has been ignoring me and it makes me uncomfortable as an employee, and some other stuff). Then I went on lunch. I eventually left for the day because I was so upset.

So now I am thinking of quitting this Friday (two days from now) as soon as I get my check. As I said, I've been planning on it for a while (I want to move to a larger city). I have enough money saved up that I can not work for 3-4 months if I continue to pay student loans or 7-8 months if I defer them.

Edited 2017-05-31 23:03 (UTC)

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First of all, that's complete bullshit on their part and I'm sorry you're in that situation

Hugs if wanted and good luck

Thank you.

I was just glad I was able to get up the nerve to tell him how fucked up that was. I was even able to tell him that THAT kind of apology was not how you apologize to someone.

I am quitting sooner than expected but I can't work for a place like that anymore.

Jesus, what a cunt!

And yes super unprofessional.

I don't know if I'd quit in your shoes but I'm terrible at making myself happy. All I can say is I hope you can make the right call that brings you the most happiness. I really hopemshitngets better for you.

I told him how unprofessional it was. And I think everyone in my family has called him a cunt like 6 times.

Thank you, I hope shit gets better as well. At the very least, I'll no longer be miserable.

I'd quit, cite that meeting and those words in my resignation letter to head office, then go and sue for constructive dismissal.

I once had a supervisor tell me to just fucking quit, he actually used the f-word and infront of clients too, so I said I would. I started walking through the site and was almost to the front gate when that supervisor and two senior managers chased me down, made the guy apologize in front of everyone, and awarded me a raise. Of course that was back in the days the unions actually had some power and the media sided with the employee, so it was some time ago.

Sadly, it is small business so there is no head office. I am thinking of applying for unemployment under the grounds of I quit because he changed my job duties. But I'll have to think on that.

I am going to cite the meeting as the reason I am quitting without two weeks notice. He created a hostile working environment.

... I feel bad about the petty work complaint I just posted now. :( *Hugs*

Anyone you can take this to? HR? Someone above him? I'm pretty sure this qualifies as workplace bullying.

All work complaints are valid! Sadly, this is a small business so there is no HR. :( Just him.

I've had something like that happen to me. You're a brave person for holding out until Friday; in my case, I quit that day.

I hope the rest of the week goes better for you and you're able to find a new, better job wherever it is you move to. <3

To be fair, I am working until Friday so I can say goodbye to the people I like. And I will be able to pick up my last check without having to get in again.

I hope so. There are a couple jobs that look good last time I checked. Hopefully I can move by the end of June (my sister will have an extra room).

you can only use the bathroom 3 times a day? that's illegal as shit, no pun intended

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-05-31 23:22 (UTC) - Expand

That was so goddamn unprofessional to do that, holy shit. You don't do that sort of thing, you bring up any issues privately so that it can be discussed properly and calmly, not used to humiliate you in front of everyone else.

I'd go the fuck 'em route and quit on the spot but honestly make the best desicion for you and give it some thought, I just wish you all the luck with what you decide and many internet hugs because your boss is a fuckwit.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-05-31 23:34 (UTC) - Expand

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

nightscale - 2017-06-01 00:21 (UTC) - Expand

Why are bosses/managers usually always such pieces of shit? WHY?

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-05-31 23:45 (UTC) - Expand

yeah no, fuck him and get the hell out of there, you don't deserve that. :(

*hugs* good luck.

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kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 00:18 (UTC) - Expand

Yikes! You should definitely quit! That is wildly unprofessional. My SO was in a similar situation (boss that treated her horribly and unprofessionally, employed by a cousin's husband) and quitting made her feel so much better.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 00:17 (UTC) - Expand

What a fuckhead.

If he wants to be an unprofessional douche, then at least have the brains to not create so many witnesses.

Good luck with your job hunt, and I hope you get something awesome and well-paying where the environment is not toxic. I hope your other coworkers also have the sense to jump ship and leave Mr. Fuckhead to choke on a dick.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 01:19 (UTC) - Expand

I say: do it. You have the funds saved up and have been thinking about it for a while, so go right ahead.

I've been in a similar situation before. Long story short: my manager threatened to fire me in front of my entire brigade at work. Before that, I'd been perfectly happy with my job. Fortunately, a couple of days after that, I found another place that was hiring with better benefits and pay. Once I'd gotten that job, I turned in my two-week notice to the manager who threatened to fire me.

He went ballistic. He basically told me if I didn't refuse the new job, I'd never work for that particular franchise again (they own all but one location in my entire city).

I turned on my heel and walked out. Never regretted it for a second. In fact, I got stabs of vicious joy when my former co-workers would stop by my new job and tell me how much I was missed (I basically did managerial work without the official title and for scut pay).

My thoughts are with you!

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 01:33 (UTC) - Expand

What an unprofessional jerk! And I am so impressed you actually stood up to him and confronted him. As a fellow very passive person, I know that struggle.

It's so hard, because on the one hand fuck that place. But on the other, you have your own personal standards on giving notice, what you need to do, what your plan is and all that. I mean, it sounds like it's only going to get worse and if you can manage it I'd say might as well quit now. But it's a tough situation you're in for sure.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 01:20 (UTC) - Expand

I just want to say I'm really sorry, that was completely unprofessional and I'm sorry you had to deal with that.

I hope you can find a new job that makes you happier! You don't need to be dealing with that sort of bullshit.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 01:47 (UTC) - Expand

Jesus, that's pretty unprofessional as well as an incredibly shitty of him.

I'm sorry you went through that and if you are really sure you want to quit and have the means to sustain yourself then I say go ahead. But also start sending out curriculum to other places. Also cite "unprofessional behavior from whathisnamewas" for reasons for quitting.

Lots of luck and good vibes to you.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 01:47 (UTC) - Expand

I hate this for you. I hate that it happened to you and I hate that he tried giving you an "I'm sorry YOU'RE upset" apology.

I am really proud of you for sticking up for yourself and I wish you the best of luck with your job searching journey.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 03:22 (UTC) - Expand

Your boss sounds like an insecure arsehole who needs to affirm their power with dick moves such as that /: it's snide af because, consciously or not, he knows you have no opportunity to defend yourself in public especially if he mentions you all of a sudden. I suppose at LEAST he gave you an opportunity to explain yourself.

I know looking for a new job is an incredibly exhausting process and it takes up so much time and energy, it's really difficult to start while you are still employed. But there has to be something better for you, definitely! At least with an acceptable work atmosphere. I don't think it's too much to ask for a job that *at least* doesn't constantly make you feel horrible. Especially when, to practical effects, is only a source of income. Also a larger city means more opportunities.

We don't know each other, but the history rings close to home - my partner's work environment is very toxic, but the conditions (three months' notice or no social security, for example) make it also difficult to leave. Best of luck to you!

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 12:14 (UTC) - Expand

I'm sorry to hear that it was so terrible. That boss is n awful person, there is absolutely no reason to call you out like that. I wish you the best of luck in finding a new job!

Hang in there. I hope your next job ens up being a job you love with people you love.

Re: One of the worst days I've had in a long time. :(

kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 12:07 (UTC) - Expand

{{{hugs}}}

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kaijinscendre - 2017-06-01 23:13 (UTC) - Expand

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