[ SECRET POST #3812 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3812 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Do you have kids?

[(Anonymous)]

I've never longed for kids and I'm horrible at communicating with human beings younger than 10-12-ish. Add to that that I'm aroace and looking at a lifetime of singlehood.

And now I'm in my early thirties and am seriously having to make the decision of going through the entire business of getting an insemination, or entering into a relationship I don't really want just because it'd be less of a hassle than being a single parent. Because yo ho, what if I sit here ten years from now and really regret it?

Re: Do you have kids?

[analise]

I'm of the opinion that if you've gone this long with no desire for kids, having kids just because you think you ought to is not a good reason to have one.

And it's a lot worse to regret having a kid in 10 years and have one than to regret not having a kid and not having one. At least in the latter case, you can still do stuff for other people's kids. In the former you're stuck with your choice and it's not fair to the kid in question.

Re: Do you have kids?

[(Anonymous)]

On the flip side: What if you have kids, and ten years from now you really regret it?

I had the same thought in my late 30s. I'd always presumed I'd get married and have kids, because hey, everybody does! But then I started to think that if I wanted to do that, I should probably get on it. After thinking about it a bit, the reality that I had never ever chosen to prioritize kids/marriage was the answer. If I'd really wanted them, I'd have taken some concrete actions to have them.

Never ever have kids just because people tell you that you MIGHT regret not having them. Most of the time, these are people who just can't conceive that someone else might live their life differently and be perfectly happy in it.