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My mother gave me a "Well you should be thankful for your stomach issues because you cousin has migraines and all these other health issues etc," talk the other day and it was a bit irritating.

One, my stomach issues may seem minor to her but they caused me to not eat and lose a bunch of weight. I'm now only able to eat with medication and even then I can't eat much.

And two, telling me someone is sicker then I am does not make me feel better about my own situation. It makes me feel bad for my cousin and then just tends to make me kind of hate life in general. It never makes me happy by comparison, I think it's shit when people try to tell me to be thankful because someone else has it worse.

:(

I'm sorry, anon. Hugs if you want them.

Thanks <3

Yeah. It's not like compassion is in short supply, or that it's against the law to give more than one person a sympathetic word. I honestly want to bop people like that on the head sometimes. Nobody gets to tell you how you feel about your situation; you're the one going it through it and no one else.

The whole "it could be way worse" thing really doesn't help. Everyone's lives and circumstances are different and what may seem minor to some can have a huge impact on someone else. I'm sorry to hear you're not well, anon. My brother's had IBS for years and has recently been in hospital and diagnosed with ulcerative colitis. Stomach/bowel problems suck so bad because they have such an effect on everything else you do. :( Please hang in there and PM me if you need to vent or anything.

"Be GLAD you have a sprained ankle! Someone out there has a broken leg!" Well gee golly gosh, that's all fine and dandy but them having a broken leg doesn't make my ankle feel better. How about, "both of those things suck, and one sucking harder doesn't mean the other is FUN." Why is that so incredibly difficult for some people to understand.

Out of all the incredibly ridiculous things my friends/associates said after I was sexually assaulted a few years back, the worst one was "WELL AT LEAST HE DIDN'T BEAT YOU OR KILL YOU"

You're right, I feel so much happier now, cheers!

Ugh. Sorry you had to deal with such an idiotic statement from an obviously clueless person, on top of such a horrible experience.

I've been subjected to physical abuse, and I sure as fuck wouldn't say it was worse than the verbal, emotional, or psychological abuse I received. It's a dumb and insensitive comparison... abuse hurts no matter what it is.

Your mother is an unhelpful jerk who isn't interested in making you feel better. I am very sorry. But I hope you remember this the next time she has even the smallest complaint about anything in HER life.

oh god that sounds like MY mom! :(

I want a matriarchy. I want an end to unthinking male privileged of walking all over women. And I'm tired of "BUT NOT ALL MENNNNN."

Yes, I've been reading a lot about women's history lately. I feel like it was robbed from me by my very male-oriented upbringing to be ashamed of my body, myself as a woman, and downgrade, deny, and mock the very idea that women have been and are important in any way besides "having children and supporting men." A lot of rage built up, I think, and I'm dealing with some of it now. I feel like I was blinded by the patriarchy which I didn't even think existed. Now I think it's hideous and invasive and EVIL.

Men aren't good. They don't deserve the automatic respect they get. They don't.

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"A study on why teenage heterosexual couples may engage in anal sex has revealed a climate of coercion, with consent and mutuality not always a priority for the boys who are trying to persuade girls into having it."

http://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/health-and-families/health-news/women-being-coerced-into-having-sex-researchers-say-with-persuasion-normalised-9671395.html

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