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⌈ Secret Post #3987 ⌋

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[Yuri on Ice]

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[Book Series: The Temeraire Novels by Naomi Novik]

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[Orphan Black]

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[Iron Fist, Joy/Danny]

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Post here if you need advice for gifts! I'll continue my request below. :)

I'm finally done Christmas shopping! But I'm starting to have doubts about my gifts for someone.

There's a guy that I've had a crush on for over a year now. We used to work together; I've left the job but I still volunteer there. I don't think he'll ever return my feelings, but I like him as a friend too, and I wanted to get him something nice for Christmas.

All together I got him:

- A tin of fancy hot chocolate
- A CD from an obscure band we're both fans of
- An illustrated edition of the first book in a series he likes
- A card with a handwritten note saying how much I admire his work ethic/kindness, and that I hope he's having a good Christmas

Is this too much? I'm giving everyone gift-bags packed full of fun stuff, but he'll definitely be getting the nicest gift. He's reacted well to the gifts I've gotten him in the past, even the slightly pricey ones, but I don't know if my crush has made me go overboard without realizing it. I really don't want to make him uncomfortable.

Uh, that seems like way too much to me. Are you two actually friends who hang out on a regular basis outside of professional environments? Because even if you do and you've gotten pretty close this is still a lot of stuff. I'd be surprised if a former co-worker gave me ANY sort of present, much less multiple presents. I think it's very, very likely you're going overboard without realizing it.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-03 22:54 (UTC) - Expand

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-03 23:27 (UTC) - Expand

Something to consume, a cd of music you both like, and a book - doesn't sound like too much to me. Sounds like you're a good friend who likes someone a bit more than most.

I say - don't worry about it. Enjoy giving something you know they'll like, and don't stress.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-03 22:56 (UTC) - Expand

That doesn't seem like too much to me.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-04 01:45 (UTC) - Expand

I think to me it'd depend on your level of interactions, are the gifts you're giving more excessive than gifts you give to people with the same level of interaction?

Also, I feel like the book would be the only over the top thing for me since special editions do tend to get pricy.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-03 23:08 (UTC) - Expand

Honestly, I'd drop the book. With it included, it really seems like too much.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-04 03:37 (UTC) - Expand

This is definitely more than I'd give even to a current co-worker I consider a work-friend, and who feels the same about me, never mind a former co-worker.

However, if you're giving other people there gifts and not singling him out, it would be less weird (although that depends on how noticeable it is that his gift is so much nicer). Also, if he's reacted well and wasn't just uncomfortably polite, then that's a good sign.

If it were me, I'd just go with the CD and the card.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-04 02:54 (UTC) - Expand

I think it's a bit much, yes. Reading through the comments, I see that the book is the most expensive? Maybe consider dropping that one if you can. Hot cocoa mix and a CD would already be a really nice gift for a co-worker, and I'd say the card is fine as long as you're doing that for all your other co-workers as well. I'd work to make his gift NOT conspicuously stand out as being more items, more expensive, or more personalized than the gifts you're giving everyone else.

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(Anonymous) - 2017-12-04 03:50 (UTC) - Expand

Tell me what you’re getting your dad so I can get some ideas.

His favorite candy.

An alternate history novel where our county breaks out as an independent nation.

Assortment of savory snack foods, because he likes that kind of thing. I try to mix it up a bit every year and include something new or unusual. International markets are great for this, so are Trader Joe's and Aldi.

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I got my dad some headphones. And my brother got him a fitness tracker. Mom said she bought him saw blades for his table saw.

My dad likes chocolates, so I'm getting him a big box of chocolate and a sweater he's been eyeing.

Starbucks gift card. He loves coffee

My mother and I got him a nice bookshelf with glass doors for his Scotch collection. I also got him a pair of headphones.

I always end up getting my mom and dad books.

I need to look up to see if I bought him a copy of Queen of Swords or not.

Bathroom robe

A nice blanket. And probably some weird hot chocolate, because it's tradition.

Costco sells these amazing sherpa lined throw blankets that are so warm and snuggly. I'm getting one each for both my parents, and maybe some coffee and tea to go with it.

Nothing this year. He said he'd be happy if I spent my money on gas and drove up to spend the holidays with him, so that's what I'm going to do.

We're all pretty much knackered all the time. In past years I've got books, calendars, pretty pens and note-pads, candles, nice handcream etc. This year I thought of miniature roses, but they're just not available! :( If anyone has any brilliant ideas, I'd be most grateful.

Are consumables okay? Whenever I have to get a group gifts, I default to chocolate.

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I haven't got a clue what to get Noddy for Xmas, since he's going to be here by then, but I suspect he might appreciate a movie gift card. And me elbowing him in the side to keep him awake through movies, but I think he doses up on his dexamphetamines before going to the cinema anyway.

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