[ SECRET POST #4035 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4035 ⌋

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Comments

Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

Based on the first secret from yesterday. Has anyone had co-dependent friendships, or other co-dependent platonic relationships? Or suspect they did?

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

My sister and I are probably too close.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[bur]

Oh Jesus. My BFF and I are ridiculously co-dependent in a low key sort of way. We've lived a mile from each other for the better part of twenty years. When I went away for college, we both became mopey shut ins, and when she moved ten miles away after she got married it lasted all of three years before she and her husband bought a place and moved in a mile down the road, despite that it was farther away from her job. Even though we might only see each other once a month or so, we seem to need to live near each other.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

I think all of my relationships with people probably aren't healthy and never have been.
I don't know how to be close to people but I also don't know how to maintain distance.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

I relied too much on a friend during a highschool when I was severely depressed which in turn destroyed the relationship. Now I'm too afraid to get too close with to anyone because I don't want to force my feels on them and have difficulty telling when I'm being annoying.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[rosehiptea]

I have the same problem, only I did it more than once and well past high school. I think I have improved significantly but now I'm at the age where it's really hard to make new friends.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

If your friend avoided you when you were severely depressed then they were not a true friend in the first place.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

But that's not what AYRT said? They said they were too dependent, not that their friend avoided them.

It's possibly the over-dependency pushed the friend away. Not everyone can deal with someone being hyper clingy, regardless of the reasons for it.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[nightscale]

No I'm kind of the opposite end of the spectrum, I'm really bad at keeping in touch with friends. I'm trying to do better though, making sure to keep in contact with my two bff's from uni because I know that I won't want to loose them.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

Seconding this.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

Same. I have one friend that I talk to every day (in the sense that our chatbox is always there and we like, talk about what we're doing/our day etc), but once people fall out of my life (ie past HS, college, ex coworkers etc) I never talk to them.

I think more because they were friends of convenience at that stage in my life than actual... "we're friends because we want to be"? If that makes sense.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

Eat your friends.

Re: Co-Dependent Friendships?

[(Anonymous)]

Lol