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[ SECRET POST #4103 ]

⌈ Secret Post #4103 ⌋

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What is the funniest/most random/oddest/stupidest thing your fandom tried to police you on recently?

For me, it was being called a racist and a homophobe for *one* of my many ships in the fandom being a white male and a white female character.

Edited 2018-03-29 23:54 (UTC)

Anything Reylo, really.

A post JUST came on my dashboard about a video with Kelly Marie Tran and the caption was like "OMG SHE LOVES REYLO AND KYLUX KELSEY IS CANCELLED."

And then I listened to the video and she only mentioned Kylux? And even if she mentioned the other things........ok? I don't like Reylo either but... let's get over ourselves.

I've never personally been policed. My tumblr and AO3 accounts are such flaming dumpster fires of sin that I guess I come off as a hopeless case LMAO.

Lol

lmao

I'm not sure if it would be considered policing, but I once got a comment on a fic (a Sherlock/John/Lestrade threesome) berating me for adding Lestrade to the Johnlock when he so clearly belongs with Mycroft. With the way it was written, I'm like 90% sure this person believed that Mycroft/Lestrade was some sort of unbreakable rule in the Sherlock fandom.

It really does seem like an unbreakable rule, and I've never been able to figure it out. I get pairing the spares, but why so much fic shipping two people who don't even interact at all for the first 2 seasons and one of them is, shall we say, not that hot?

Someone once called me homophobic for shipping both Megstiel and Destiel. It was amusing and odd.

Did you get called homophobic just for shipping Megstiel, or did they know you shipped both Megstiel and Destiel?

Nah, they knew I shipped both, but I guess I was only supposed to be shipping Destiel because it was gay erasure or something otherwise.

I was accused of being a fetishizing "yaoi fangirl" because I shipped a (live action) femslash pairing.

lol

Not even remotely recently, but someone I'd call an Infamous Named Fan (INF!) accused me of hating OCs for no particular reason. The irony is that for fandom (especially at this time, it was prime Pottersues era), I was actually pretty cool with OCs and wrote a lot of posts about how not all OCs were Mary Sues. (Flocked, though, so she wouldn't have read them.) I don't even remember their logic, just that it wasn't even about OCs.

I also joined an RPG where a member - not a mod, a random member - IMed me privately and told me everything I'd been doing wrong. I almost quit right then and there.

Someone accused me of being racist because, in a conversation about of favorite Doctor Who companions, I said that mine was Donna.

... wow. Okay. Most of the Companions have been white, though? WTF was their logic?

It's probably good that I run my own blog with no open comments section.

People freaked out because I defended JK Rowling once. It was hilarious how many "but she sucks, Voldemort is so sympathetic and Ron is a Death Eater" comments I got.

I don't mind all criticism of JK Rowling, mind, but these were fans who clearly took their fanon as canon.

I never understood Ron is A Death Eater shit.

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Heh, I don't get policed, because no one pays any attention to me...

... except one person from an old fandom who apparently lurks in my spaces waiting for me to drop vague generalized references about our fandom interactions so that she can DM me about how much I've hurt her.

waiting for me to drop vague generalized references about our fandom interactions

You do that?

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My fandom went through an anti-porn phase a while back, and I got told off by a couple anons for writing too much porn or porny posts. But nothing else since then. My fandom is pretty easy and laid back.

I got called a rape-apologist and fetishising fangirl because I said I wasn't going to judge someone else's ships. I mostly found it funny because I'm not even a girl and they couldn't get THAT much right...

Not so much policed but I got a lecture recently about how using someone else’s lipstick is really gross, how the character would never do it and that there’s a huge risk of contracting oral herpes that way. Which yeah, fair enough.... except said character at the time was participating in unprotected oral and anal sex with someone who there was no reference to getting tested/exclusivity??? But yeah, the real danger there is lipstick herpes, not genital herpes/every other possible STI/D. I don’t know if that’s where the suspension of disbelief ran out or if kids today honestly know more about make up than sex education but really, that’s what concerned you.

Another one, again not really policing but I was told a ship couldn’t ever possibly be noncon or dubcon because of Character A’s “obvious crush” (fanon, not canon) on Character B when I tagged an extremely dubcon fic as extremely dubcon. That one deeply disturbed me because having a crush does not equal consent and I could just see it spiralling into a real life justification and ended up having to point out that I would not be ok with someone doing anything to me without my consent, no matter how big a crush I had on them. We had to agree to disagree in the end but every so often I think about it and... I just hope the don’t see it that way IRL, either to justify something shady or because they’ve had something done to them and we’re made to believe it was their fault/it was ok because they liked the person/flirted with them. The whole thing really skeeves me out because there’s no good angle.

Lastly, and as far as I’m concerned this one is policing. I was in a general fandom space and a post explicitly said “if you have any questions, please ask them in the comments” and then I got dogpiled, by anon/anons because I asked a question. The question wasn’t offensive, it was me asking someone what a specific fandom term meant to them as there had been confusion over that and other terms and as this term wasn’t in a language I speak, but that OP did speak (stated in their comment), I asked them what it meant to them. OP happily replied to me and was very gracious about clarifying the term, welcoming any more questions I might have. But one anon seemed to really hate the fact we were talking. They didn’t hate on the topic, it was just demeaning comments about me asking a question (in a questions post) and how I shouldn’t be wasting my time writing out comments/talking to another human being when I could just google it. Never mind that googling it gave me the wrong information in the first place, hence the confusion. It was literally like having someone walk into a discussion group and yell “no talking!” In the end, they realised they had said something that connected back to their ID and claimed that all the other comments were actually someone that was not a member of the community and just happened to be stumble on it randomly (sure, jan). My main take away from that was, maybe because the way fandom is on tumblr (reblog/like but no real way to talk), even though this wasn’t on tumblr, is that there are clearly some people out there that can’t communicate on a human level anymore, where two people having a discussion, in a place specifically for discussion, made them so angry that they felt the need to break it up.

Wow, just wow, to all of those.

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