[ SECRET POST #4148 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4148 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Will and Grace season 9]


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[Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen, Elizabeth Olsen]


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[Stranger Things, Billy/Mrs. Wheeler]


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(Grimm)


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[Antoni Porowski, Queer Eye 2018]


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[The Crown]









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Comments

Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

CW depressing subject below.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

Am I the only one who's lost a mother recently that finds the "to those of you who've lost your mothers" posts on social media a million times more depressing than ads?

Like, the ads are just... meh. It's like seeing an ad about a holiday I no longer celebrate. A little bothersome but no skin off my teeth. But I just saw the 100th "to those of you/us..." post and actually got a mild anxiety "rush" (not quite the right word) from it.

I don't want to criticize anyone, I know some have also lost and it's comforting to them, others just want to be supportive but it's really not helpful to me.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

I can understand why that might make you feel worse. It's a little late for this year obviously, but maybe make a note to take a break from social media next year?

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

Well, going by what I've seen on the internet, it's basically a facepunch to anyone who:

1) Lost a mom
2) Had a shitty/abusive/neglectful mom
3) Lost a child

Which makes up a lot of folks in the world. Personally, I had the misfortune of being born to someone who never wanted to be a mother, so to me (basically, to her, babies are cute until they require actual care), this holiday is meaningless. However, I recognize that some people had good relationships with their mothers, so I just kind of tune out the lame ads and do my own thing.

So this is kind of random, but the founder of Mother's Day, Anna Jarvis, thoroughly despised what the holiday had become. She meant for it to be a holiday for someone to celebrate the mother in their life, but pretty much went after anyone who tried to cash in on it (buy your mom flowers/candy/jewelry/etc!). I do wonder how she'd feel about anyone for whom the holiday was tainted (from the reasons I listed above), or anyone who had more than one important motherly figure in their life.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

I haven't lost my mother but I have an extremely toxic relationship with her, and posts on social media about how I'm ~valid~ always strike me as patronizing and almost intrusive. Like they want to be thanked for rubbernecking at my pain.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT: YES. I hear you on the intrusive front so much.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[tabaqui]

I think they're a bit twee, but also i think enough people saw 'i'm not a mom/lost my mom/hate my mom/she was a terrible person' posts on Mother's Day that they're trying really hard to be inclusive.

Totally does not mean that you have to like or appreciate them, though, 'cause some of them are kinda gross and just...over the top.

Re: Is it just me? (Mother's Day rant)

[(Anonymous)]

That sucks, OP. I lost my mom last year and nothing about Mother’s Day really bothers me, whether it’s blanket sympathy posts or saccharine ads, I guess because it wasn’t a big deal when my mom was alive. I usually just bought her flowers. Other holidays and events and stuff we used to do together bug me more because they meant more to her, or me, or both of us. But mourning and grief are different for everyone.