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What ways or things do you use to vent emotions you can't express at a specific moment?

I'm discovering my job is leading to a lot of anger at government officials that I have to (try to) call on a daily basis. Obviously I can't yell at them even when they are incompetent and/or purposefully difficult. So I need to find some useful ways to vent this anger. Posting has been semi helpful, but it can get me even more fired up again as well.

Long and vigorous walks.

That's out for me. It's too bloody hot here (going to be in the hundreds all week). Texas summer sucks.

When our neighborhood pool opens in a few weeks, I'm going to try that when I can.

But the only thing I got is video games, but if I am in a mood I just get super pissed at those too.

I write short, bloody fic/prose to get all my feelings out. And then yoga to cool down.

I play angry music in my car and sing at the top of my lungs during my lunch break.

I go to the harbour and watch waves smash into things and splash people who are for some reason always surprised that they got wet. It's very satisfying.

On behalf of my fellow low-level government officials, thank you for not biting people's heads off even if you're pissed off and think they're being obstructive.

I've found that a stress ball or fidget toy can help bleed frustration in the moment. It's something to occupy your hands, and give your brain a little bit of distance from the thing that makes you want to scream. Physical activity after work helps on the larger scale - kickboxing and swimming are my poison of choice, but anything that gets you moving and burns off that energy and gives you an endorphin boost is great. And sometimes you really do just need to vent to a colleague about this one asshole, can you believe it, just to get it out there and move on. I've found sooner is better, since it gets the frustration out there rather than letting it fester and revisiting it later.

Oh, I don't think most low level officials are evil. Some ICE officers, though? Totally are. Their phones will ring and ring and ring, no voice mail. I'll hang up and call again only to get a busy signal. And forget leaving messages for the ones that do have voicemail. They never call back.

Honestly, I just think that particular agency attracts the ones who hate immigrants and are genuinely obstructionist. But I don't think that extends to other agencies. Just that one. Well, and border patrol too.

DA but I have a friend who now does border patrol in my country because his unit was called up to do it. The majority of his work involves locating people who have tried to cross with inadequate supplies and he has been the person to locate deceased children and families. If anything he feels more strongly about making the process of legal immigration easier and safer since starting that job. He didn't write the laws he has to enforce.

He sounds great. And I think there are good people in both agencies. I just think they tend to attract not so good people and that there are major flaws in the system themselves. Not any one indvidual's fault, and I'm fine with individuals in the job who actually do their job (all parts of it, including the sharing information with attorneys who have sent you the proper documentation part) and treat immigrants like human beings.

I just get frustrated because I have to deal with the worst of them in my job. And it is people's lives that are being impacted. And trying to avoid talking to attorneys so you can trick the immigrants into going forward with their cases unrepresented is just not okay. And it happens all too often.

Nah, I didn't think you were implying that all government workers are evil. Although damn, if you're down in the thick of immigration-related obstruction, I can't honestly say I'd blame you if you did.

Yup. The attorney I'm working for has a lot of cases involving people in detention, and he's just kind of dropped me right in the middle of it. I get the phone calls since they're more likely to answer an attorney and he can focus on going to court. I do a lot of other stuff too, but the phone calls are the one thing that's a really new experience for me. My internships were with non-profits who didn't do many cases involving detainees.

Reading bashing fics. I get to project all my negativity on some fictional characters, and no real life people get hurt.

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