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For venting or complaining or talking about problems

Why am I such a fucking weirdo who's awful at even the most basic social interaction

I hate it I don't like it

+1 I'm the same, anon. It's painful. :(

+2 I hate it too. I'm about to go out to a work thing and I'm thinking "People... no..."

+3

I don't have much hope for myself either tbh. Everyone's normal and I'm... not.

I wish my noisy loud obnoxious neighbour could just go die in a corner--or get sent back to prison, whatever, as long as I get a little quiet.

You could just wish for them to move out

I had neighbors like that. They did eventually go back to jail!

Edited 2018-09-30 20:21 (UTC)

Ye gods I'm getting a nosebleed again. It's not bad, it's just a little blood oozing off, not even trickling down, but it happens oh so often since a few months... Blergh. Tiresome.

I used to get nosebleeds all the time. My doctor said to spray a squirt of saline spray up each nostril before bedtime each night. Now I only get them if I've done something like pick my nose.

I HATE how my mother communications. Instead of asking for what she wants, she'll complain in a joking way. Like, instead of "can I have another cup of coffee?" it's "nobody loves me, I don't know why nobody wants to give me more coffee". And it's like that for EVERYTHING. And when she gets it, she'll jokingly complain about how dreadful it is instad of saying thanks. "Wow, is that the weekerst one you could make me?"
I love her dearly, but this drives me BATSHIT.

Call her out on it? If she starts with the, "Oh I guess no one wants to get me [x]." say something like, "Oh I'm sorry, I didn't hear you ask me to get you an [x], did you want one?"

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communicates, I mean. It makes me so mad I can't 'communications' anymore.

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holy crap I thought my mom was passive-aggressive

Sounds like she's super passive aggressive. You could train her out of it, but it'll be a lot of work. The first step is to call her out every time. That's every single time you witness it, otherwise she'll just relapse.

"Mom, if you want a cup of coffee and you don't want to get it yourself, why not ask someone nicely?"

"That's a funny way to say 'thank you' to someone who just did you a favor."

"Next time, you can make your own coffee, then."

If she says she's "just joking", shrug and say, "Didn't seem funny to me." and next time, DON'T DO SHIT FOR HER. Because she was just joking, so she doesn't really want coffee, right? Leave the room if you have to, but don't respond positively unless she speaks to you like a mature adult.

My family are all like this. I was a big people pleaser as a kid so I went out of my way to accomodate them. Thank fuck I outgrew that. I will only respond now if they're behaving like adults. They still try the whiny baby crap all the time. I have perfected the one eyebrow raise.

Unfortunately, when she "jokes" about this and you make her a cup of coffee, you're teaching her that her "jokes" are A-okay with you and that this is a fine way to interact with people. She's super passive aggressive and ungrateful. But it works, because you're doing what she wants! She will never change because she doesn't have to - she gets to be an annoying little shit and there are never any negative consequences for her behavior.

Went for a couple of drinks with friends + family last night, friend warned me that though the beer was cheap there he always bad a dodgy stomach the day after. I necked a couple of pints anyway and oh fuck I've been miserable all day. Just constant horrible cramps and the worst runs. I'm guessing they don't clean their lines very often at that place. :( Ugh. Bottled beer only from here on.

:O how is that place still open? gross!

Ugh! Honestly you'd be doing everyone a favor if you left a bad Yelp review stating as such.

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zomg, random websites, just automate an email if you change the type of password you accept to say "We have suddenly decided that you need these new things in passwords and your current password doesn't work, so please update your password". Don't just ... not tell me, and then I try to log in, and it's all PLEASE ENTER A VALID PASSWORD". And let me request a reset, and then, only THEN, when I'm trying to create a new thing, reveal the new magic extras you need to secure from the prying eyes of evil hackers the sensitive data that is my taste in shoes or images I've uploaded for memes. Bah. and HUMBUG.

I fucking hate being a woman. Honestly, right now, I'm ready to cut it all out. And my biggest reason for wanting a better job is so I can get insurance that will let me do that. I've been in bed all weekend with agonizing pain. I really hoped the IUD would solve things, but clearly not.

I have 45 friends on Facebook but not one of them is my real friend. When I post good news nobody's happy for me. When I post bad news nobody sympathises. When I joke nobody laughs. When I ask for advice nobody says a word. I don't get a single response, like or comment on any of my posts and I try not to care but it does get to me when I see how much activity my "friends" get on even the most pointless posts. I vented here about it before and you all said it's probably just the algorhythm on Facebook making them miss my posts, but how could it make ALL of them miss ALL my posts? I'm really not THAT boring.

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My brother's cancer may have returned again...four months after they claimed to have cut it all out of him. :(

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I smoke weed to help manage my anxiety symptoms but I live in an illegal state which means having to contact drug dealers which holy shit I hate doing - it ironically gives me anxiety worse than what I normally experience. I gotta message my guy tonight but I’m always this close to having a panic attack when I do because I’m so scared of saying the wrong thing (and of course I do it when I’m out of it.)