[ SECRET POST #4387 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4387 ⌋

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Comments

[fscom]

07. https://i.imgur.com/hL3N4IP.jpg

[(Anonymous)]

At your age? If you're posting on FS, how old could you possibly be? And you know there are lesbians of all ages, right?

[(Anonymous)]

... do you think that at age 45, your ability to use the internet suddenly dries up and blows away?

[(Anonymous)]

From previous conversations, we have people in their 60s and 70s posting here. Probably more people in their 50s and 60s than teenagers posting here at this point (I would guess).

[(Anonymous)]

Ah, yes. Only the youths hang out in "lit" places like dreamwidth. There's also no old people in fandom. Once you hit 30, your fandom membership card is revoked and you have to take up golf and shuffleboard instead.

[(Anonymous)]

Not OP, but I’m 30, bi, genderfluid, and married to a straight cis man, so my opportunities to further explore gender/sexuality stuff IRL is pretty limited, especially because I think threesomes are boring af :\

[(Anonymous)]

I'm guessing this is more a case of "I don't feel as if I, at my age, could make a place for myself in a community I have never been part of before, in an era where it is increasingly common and expected that LGBT people have been out/involved in relationships at the same young ages that straight people do, when I would be coming in as a complete neophyte to lesbian culture with zero experience in dating other women" than "my vagina has dried up and blown away and no fellow lady lovin' lady will ever want it." I'm guessing this because it's exactly how my closeted, late-to-the-party ass has been feeling for some time now.

[(Anonymous)]

i remember in the last year or so I was the youngest in a "how old are you FS?" thread and i'm nearly 24 so I don't think it's as young as people think

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe the OP wanted to have a lesbian experience with someone much younger but if she's much older now that can't really happen unless she has to pay for it. Maybe she's mourning the fact that it didn't happen much much earlier in her life so she could get who she wanted?

[(Anonymous)]

It's... sweetly naive of you to think that FS is only a hangout for young people. I'm guessing you're young yourself? Because usually only the young are this oblivious to the fact that older people still exist and have hobbies and interests and feelings and that none of this stops just because you get older.

[feotakahari]

I’ve heard that retirement home residents get a lot of STDs.

[(Anonymous)]

...sort of true? The main reason is that if you catch herpes at any stage in your life, as your immune system gets weaker in old age, it can come back. And that includes HSV1 (usually cold sores) coming back as genital herpes.

[bur]

Nah.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you OP. I am 45 and pretty much everyone I know is settled. I just really don't feel like putting myself out there for strangers (not that I'm even sure what dating site/app I'd use anyway), particularly as I'm not particularly attractive. I feel like my chance has basically passed me by, and it makes me sad.

[(Anonymous)]

Me also. I'm going to be 59.

[kulturschnepfe]

Same here, at 58. I'm not very optimistic about my chances.

[rivulet027]

I've mostly used Okcupid and Tinder. If it helps I dated a 42 year old when I was 33?

[(Anonymous)]

Well I can only speak for myself but I find older women attractive and I'm 34.

I can completely sympathise with not wanting to put yourself out there but if you don't try you'll never know? I know that's trite but it is true.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm 31, bi, closeted, present very classically feminine and in terms of women am exclusively attracted to those who present similarly, have only been with one person in my life (who was male), and know exactly one (1) actual wlw irl, who is an older colleague with whom I am not close enough to confide personal shit. I know that feel, OP.

[(Anonymous)]

Thank you for making my comment into a secret. It's nice to see the support.

[sabotabby]

I didn’t get together with another woman until I was 30 and I know women who came out in their 40s and 50s. Also I read somewhere that women are more likely to slide along the Kinsey scale in middle age. So unless you’re in a monogamous relationship with a dude or you’re a nun (and probably not if you’re a nun!) there’s hope if that’s something you’re into.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel you, OP.

[nanslice]

My first relationship (EVER) was when I was 32, and it was with a female bodied (but genderqueer) person. I understand why you feel the way you feel but unless you're in a monogamous relationship with a man, you still absolutely have a chance! It's harder, I get it, and it can be really intimidating, but don't count yourself out.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know how old you are, but you are probably not too old. "At your age?" If you're under 50, you're younger than me.

One thing I know about the bi women and lesbians I know who are about my age? We're mostly into women about that same age, give or take a decade and a half or so in either direction (which, if you're 50, is between 35 and 65 - which is a nice BIG range with a LOT of amazing women in it). Sure, 25-year-olds are pretty to look at, but they don't yet have the life experience that makes someone really sexy and interesting and a good partner.

"At your age," it can definitely still happen if you want it to and you seek it out.

[(Anonymous)]

I get you OP. I have lived so long in the closet that I don't think I can ever come out of it. It makes me sad too but I have a lot of other blessings.