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⌈ Secret Post #4394 ⌋

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one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

uh... how do you do them, esp as a woman?

i'm almost 30 and i've had a singular boyfriend in my life and that was 5 years ago, never done any of that fun stuff. i kind of want to try my luck at tinder, but i have no idea what the procedure would be.

like i imagine if i just ask upfront online that might be kind of dangerous? should i go for a coffee first and then ask during the date? and do you go to the guy's or the woman's place? i again ask for safety reasons - i don't know if it isn't better if i don't let people know where i live in case i never want to see them again.
also any other considerations i should have would be appreciated.

...yea

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

https://hellogiggles.com/lifestyle/one-night-stand-safe-pleasurable/

https://www.self.com/story/one-night-stands-and-safety

https://www.wikihow.com/Have-a-Successful-One-Night-Stand-(for-Women)

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

i appreciate it, but i was kind of hoping for personal experiences

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

I would love to have one of those but I've been told I'm unattractive so my chances at that are nil.

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

Tinder, honestly.

Obviously go out for a drink or something first and assess if you like them, then invite yourself back to their place or them to yours and if they're receptive, you're probably going to have sex. It doesn't matter whose place you go to. Unless you get a crazy stalker, you may be overthinking worrying about someone knowing where you live. Of course you should be upfront in your profile that you're not looking for anything serious or a relationship, you're just looking to meet people and have fun. That translates to one night stand, and the people who connect with you will likely be on the same page.

It's true that there's some risk with a one night stand with a stranger. That's definitely true. Not a bad idea to text a friend the photo and name of the person you're meeting (based on their Tinder profile or whatever) just in case, or a friend who can check in with you the next morning.

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, Tinder's honestly your best bet. Most people are on there looking for hookups over relationships. And at least with Tinder you can do a little bit of vetting first.

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

make sure you're on some kind of birth control, buy condoms, know how to use said condoms, get the human papillomavirus vaccine. consider buying yourself some nice sex toys instead.

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

Sex toys don't replicate human connection, yo. Even if you're just looking for a hookup, it's more than just an orgasm.

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

Yea sometimes i just wanna dry hump someone just a little tbh

Re: one night stands

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe it was just me but sometimes I felt like I was my biggest threat. It was weird to realize I could just dissociate and go along with the sketchiest of things. Denying something feels wrong doesn't make it true!

If you aren't comfortable asserting yourself, rejecting people, and basically saying "fuck politeness" when your gut is upset practice that first lol You don't owe anyone your safety or comfort. Also, you don't have to be an ass but your enjoyment is your priority in a one night stand, you ain't doing it for your health lmao

I gotta be honest, as a woman the odds are good to gamble on a guy being open to the idea but not expecting it so feel free to scope a dude out before deciding. You don't have to go into the date with your mind made up. And lbr, practice does make perfect so if the first one is awkward or a bust you can just try again.