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[ SECRET POST #705 ]
⌈ Secret Post #705 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 165 secrets from Secret Submission Post #101.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - doing it wrong ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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OTOH, judgemental straw-feminist fangirls who DO think Books Must Be The Way Life Should Be, Yo? That's not fucked up or anything is it?
I like Twilight. I'm also a feminist. I think women have the right to choose any kind of life they want. Whether that's Hillary Rodham Clinton's life or...well, not Bella Swan's, vampirism is not a choice in the real world, but you know, early marriage and all that fun stuff. People want different things.
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Women can be housewives if they want. We can agree on that point. But hopefully, we can also agree that unhealthy relationships shouldn't be glamorized.
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I ABSOLUTELY WILL NOT sign on to this kind of censorship.
Also, what glamour? Edward is weird, moody, socially awkward and pretty. Bella doesn't like it when he's controlling, although sometimes he has good reason to be and she will go along with it at that point. (The whole "people you can't possibly fight yourself are after you" argument is, I'm afraid, rather compelling.) Edward is freaky, but he doesn't make her feel bad about herself. I've been in the kind of relationship this book's detractors think it's presenting, and I would run a country mile to get away from it, but that's not what I see in this book.
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I'm especially frustrated that fangirl squee is taken as serious commentary on what you want in your life. OK, putting Tom Sturridge on your tits is NUTS, but if a girl says "OMG I LOVE EDWARD SOOO MUCH I'D SO LEAVE MY BF TO MARRY HIM" does that really mean any more than "OMG I love Brad Pitt soooo much, I'd leave my boyfriend and marry him"? Of course not. Because Brad Pitt is a celebrity that you will never meet and Edward is neither human nor real.
"I want a relationship just like Edward and Bella", why do people take this literally? I'm sure the people who say that don't actually want a controlling boyfriend any more than they want trackers and the Volturi coming after them to try and kill them dead!
Though, personally, I love Carlisle :) but then, I'm older than most of the people who want Edward.
I didn't expect to like these books but I read them because my best friend loved them, and I really do love them. They're not War and Peace. But neither is Harry Potter.
(And actually, I think Ron and Hermione are waaay scarier than Bella and Edward.)
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Oh, and I also love Carlisle. :D I'm quite a bit older than most of the Edward fans, myself. Though I will say that Rob Pattinson looked GLORIOUS in the movie. ;)
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(Anonymous) 2008-12-11 08:57 pm (UTC)(link)I'm not a Ron/Hermione fan either, but WHY is this scarier than Bella/Edward?
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* belittle Bella's academic and intellectual interests (like Ron does Hermione's)--in fact he encourages her to complete her education, it's Bella who doesn't want to;
* belittle the causes Bella cares about or the changes she'd like to see in their world;
* tell Bella she's a shrew or that her complaints/wishes/interests that are different from his are unreasonable.
Imnsho, Ron's much more emotionally abusive. Edward is so paranoid about dating someone who's incredibly breakable from his POV that it comes off as a desire to control her when actually he doesn't want to control her, he just wants her to be safe. Ron...kind of hates Hermione's political activism, intellectual interests, organisational skills...he is always bitching at her, and he uses another girl to get at her. And the fact that Hermione is just as mean to him doesn't make the relationship BETTER. They're horrible to each other.
YMMV, a lot of people like the Weasleys; to me they're exactly like the O'Keefes in "Wrinkle In Time" except that Rowling likes them and wants us all to love them too.
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(Anonymous) - 2008-12-12 00:34 (UTC) - ExpandRe: 145
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And realistically? I think many of the girls who say "OMG EDWARD IS SO ROMANTIC" wouldn't actually put up with this behaviour in real life when faced with it. But Twilight is a vampire fantasy. I don't think girls who read pioneer romances want to go and live in the 1890s, but they fantasise about it. It frustrates me that people who say that they are feminists are often the people who give other girls and women the least amount of credit for having any common sense at all about stuff like this. I mean, I consider "OMG EDWARD IS SOOO ROMANTIC, I WANNA BOYFRIEND JUST LIKE HIM, I'd leave my husband/bf/SO in a heartbeat," to be the exact same kind of thing as when I say "OMG Rahm Emanuel is soooo hot, I'd hit that with the force of a thousand suns," when actually, I absolutely wouldn't (we're the same religion, we're both serious about it, and I'd be sooo disappointed if he cheated on his wife, even though I like to read slash about him). I think people frequently mistake fannish squee for something that it isn't.
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And if you just squee, why shouldn't they?
I started out in the online fanfiction/roleplaying world in Harry Potter and I was in my late 30s (2001-2002), and I ended up in a lot of conversations with people who turned out to be 14-17 years old. In the beginning, I frequently could not tell who was 16 and who was 35.
Later I detected a pattern: many 16 year olds were much more incisive in discussing a character's flaws than the 35 year olds (Snape's "wives" were not 15...), who were often in the rough spots of parenting/marriage/elder care and wanted silly romantic fluff, as opposed to teens, who liked angst. But if I had come into the conversation saying, "I'm 35, and you're 15, and this is not a good role model, and you do know this is not the kind of guy you should really date," it would have shut the conversation down AT ONCE. But I thought Snape and Draco were cool too, so we squeed, and then later, in the stories and deeper conversations, it became pretty clear that the teenagers were often clearer on the fault lines than the adults indulging in escapism who had enough RL to deal with offline. I tended to write fic with an equal balance of angst and emotional realism to romantic fluff, so I drew people from both age groups.
Your mother is the teacher of these girls. She's an authority figure and even if they like her, they're not going to have the conversations with her that they have with each other. You're her daughter, and presumably tell her what you hear. You are not going to hear what they really think deep down, and you certainly aren't going to hear it if you approach them as an older Person Who Knows What's Best For You.
Of course they go all mushy about the pairing. Of course they leave it at that. You're not someone they want to have this conversation with, and you won't be as long as you start out critical and authoritative.
Not to mention, there are a lot of people who don't want to analyse their squee material, and when did that stop being okay? As long as you're doing OK where it counts in real life, I see no reason to be concerned about you (OK not you personally, but you know what I mean) because you think Edward is hotter than Jacob or Draco is hotter than Ron. If you're not doing OK in real life, as a friend, I'm going to address that, not your shipping preferences.
(Actually, Draco is much nicer to Pansy than Ron is to Hermione, but Ron/Hermione are one of Those Couples--they freak me out way more than Edward and Bella, since when Edward is an asshole he usually has a good explanation for it later and he doesn't actually try to make Bella feel horrible about herself like real abusive bfs do.)
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(Anonymous) 2008-12-12 12:29 am (UTC)(link)Shine on, you crazy diamond!
(P.S. If you'd censor your own posts that'd be awesome, TIA!)
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Initially, Bella would have probably agreed with you that teen marriage is a mistake and usually done out of naivety. However, this is a romance fantasy novel. Bella and Edward are depicted to be soulmates, and when you read the books...marriage seems to be the only real logical next step. Especially when she's planning (at that point) to become immortal anyway.
Having 1987506 babies is probably the last thing Bella wants to do, believe me.
As far as Edward's obsession goes...you really have to go back and see the impact that Bella had on him. He's been alive for decades, having no real affection or even remote attraction for anyone. And to find that the girl that he FINALLY is attracted to is human!? "Obsession" is one way of describing it, but it's more like him trying to figure her out. "Who the hell IS this girl and why does she have this effect on me?" It's sappy yes, but kind of part of their dynamic.
His controlling nature takes place for a small section of ONE of the books. Bella doesn't take that shit anyway. She rebels, and he slowly figures out that he doesn't want to be that guy anyway. How massively that's blown up is beyond me.
Edward Cullen is most definitely not abusive. In fact, quite the opposite.
Their relationship is obviously unrealistic in many elements, and even Bella has a hard time believing it sometimes. But I would never describe them as unhealthy. They're fictional characters for gods sake. It's supposed to be fantastic and imaginative...but if people were to model their own relationships after it, I don't think anyone is of risk.
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It'll be okay. They'll find something else to hate soon.
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(Anonymous) 2008-12-13 03:40 am (UTC)(link)does that count :3
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I'm going to pass this link onto you in the hopes that you'll read it thoroughly. I'm not saying you MUST agree with it in whole or in part, but at least give it a chance, and then re-read the "Twilight" series and examine those parts that you probably just skimmed over or forgot about in your last read-through.
Read what's out of "Midnight Sun," while you're at it, too.
EDWARD IS ABUSIVE. EDWARD IS CONTROLLING. EDWARD IS OBSESSIVE. His relationship with Bella (and vice-versa) is NOT HEALTHY. We all recognize that it's fiction, it's fantasy, it's YA romance, but that doesn't mean it is/should be immune to literary criticism. For the audience that is targeted towards (and the audience that is reading the series), it presents a VERY dangerous relationship model, and YES, they WOULD be at risk if people expected or created such a relationship.
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I'm getting the feeling that you might think I'm another squealing Twilight fan girl, when in reality, I too went into the series skeptically. I certainly did not believe it was going to be "the best fantasy romance series EVAR!!" either, and still don't.
I read the entire entry you gave me, and was pleasantly surprised to find some logical arguments. I can definitely understand and even respect a lot of what it had to say. I wouldn't consider myself a raging Bella/Edward shipper and even found myself creeped out by Edward from time to time when I read the series. Edward is a douche bag for a majority of the early novels, but I also believe he does a lot of improving throughout their relationship. Granted, he was pretty much a dictator in their relationship in the beginning. But he later realizes he was flawed in his controlling ways, and allows Bella to visit Jacob whenever she pleases. I think after that, and especially after their marriage, that whole part of him kind of withers.
Twilight is free to be whacked at by literary criticism, you're right. However, getting steamed, rowdy and "LET ME YELL WITH CAPS" is pretty pointless. The Twilighters who worship Edward are only doing so because they 1) will become attached to any attractive boy, regardless of character flaws, and/or 2) need some fantastical fantasy in their lives in order to function. If not Edward, they will find it somewhere else.
If anyone is really taking relationship advice from fantasy books, they need to realize that relationships like Edward and Bella do not exist. (And when I say that, I don't mean "abusive and controlling" relationships don't exist) Human/vampire relationships don't exist. There are no relationships where the boy has am emotional, physical AND blood thirst attraction to the girl. It's entertainment and should not be a bible on how to live. That's just silly. It is not Twilight, nor is it author that should be criticized, it's the eagerness of readers to immediately embrace fiction as real.
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To be honest, I don't think that Edward allowing Bella to visit Jacob whenever she pleases is the penultimate form of relaxing his "dictator" ways. It's like he's got her on a leash and he's given her a bit of slack-- she's still on a leash.
Plus, if he does "improve" after they're married, it's probably BECAUSE they're married. He's got her "for eternity" now. Bella couldn't get away from him if she wanted to-- she's got the responsibility of her child (her own personal reasons for wanting to be a better parent than she sees her own parents as being a primary reason), but even if that weren't a factor, Edward and the other vampires would likely come after her. Edward himself points it out -she can't escape from him (not even as a vampire herself). She'd end up living like the recluse vampire-- what's his name, Alistair? He wasn't exactly described with glowing praise in BD, so I doubt his lifestyle of hiding from hte Volturi and the rest of vampire-dom is something Bella -wanting to "live" free and on her own- is something she'd aspire to. But it'd likely be her only choice, given the people she's surrounded herself with.
You are right that the sort of fangirls who are squeeing over Edward would have found that same sort of obsessive devotion in another character somewhere, but that doesn't make it any better (their behavior or Edward's character and "excusing" it).
As for your last comment, I think that's the crux of what a lot of people are trying to argue about the nature of the series and what it presents. The kind of people reading it AND squeeing over it, scratching their necks to make them bleed, wishing their boyfriends were [like] Edward, etc.-- those are the sort of people who, even if they register that vampires don't exist, won't register the rest of it. AT ALL. And they'll get stuck in a relationship that they've idealized and that "Twilight" and Stephenie Meyer have glamorized if they believe in those ideals to a fault. So yes, the readers are still very much at fault, but it's not like the series or the author are blameless. Without them, there'd be no issue at all here.
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(Anonymous) 2008-12-12 12:25 am (UTC)(link)then i'd shoot myself in the face when i realized what i fucking worthless moron i am as a parent and as a human being.
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