[ SECRET POST #4955 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4955 ⌋

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[Leverage]


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[Persona 4]


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[Daniel Sharman as The Weeping Monk - Cursed]


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[Gank Your Heart]


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[Honto Yajuu]


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[Avatar: The Last Airbender]























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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

So I've been debating something for awhile.

Recently, I've come to question if I'm cis or if I'm some kind of NB. I'm misgendered on anon often enough, and I've found I take more offense at the assumption I'm straight than the idea that I might be a dude. I can't tell if this is just cis privilege, or if I'm just some kind of nb who gives 0 fucks what someone calls me so long as it's not "heterosexual."

[(Anonymous)]

My take here is that there's no official rule that determines what label does or does not work for you in representing the underlying reality of your relationship with gender. And I don't think there's any problem with not having a definite answer to that question, or even not particularly caring about your gender identity.

For me personally, I kind of feel the same way, I'm definitely much more committed and connected to my sexual identity than my gender identity. But I've also found that much of what bothers me about gender is, not gender identity itself, but the hegemonic and shitty and alienating and totalizing assumptions that our society still manufactures about what gender is supposed to look like.

[(Anonymous)]

As an NB meself, that wouldn't fall under cis privilege to me - but nor does that necessarily mean you're NB, or that you're cis. In the end, only *you* can define that. Question it, explore it, see what feels right to you; it's okay if you are and it's okay if you're not.

[(Anonymous)]

I guess I'm more asking if that is cis privilege or if I've come to some potential realization about myself.

[(Anonymous)]

"I take more offense at the assumption I'm straight than the idea that I might be a dude"

So do I'm, and I'm very confident that I'm cis.

[(Anonymous)]

Some identity labels matter more than others, it doesn't necessarily mean anything.

Idc if I get misgendered or assumed to be straight, but fuck people who assume everyone is white

[(Anonymous)]

SA

Obviously I meant they matter more than others subjectively, before y'all go nuts about my wording

[(Anonymous)]

I mean... not being preoccupied with your gender or thinking/caring much about it is pretty much a hallmark of being cis. One of my trans friends told me that he first realized he was trans when another friend made an offhand comment that made him realize that the average person DOESN'T spend a lot of time thinking about their gender or how they present. As he said, when you're trans or otherwise non-cis, you think about it a lot and it affects you way more than it does someone who is cis.

[(Anonymous)]

I wouldn't say it's not that I don't think about it? It's more I literally don't care how someone genders me. They can call me a dude, call me a chick, call me they/them, etc. The only time I find myself caring is anyone implying I'm straight. Imply I'm not cis? sure, I'm fine with that!

Does that make sense?

[meadowphoenix]

not being preoccupied with your gender or thinking/caring much about it is pretty much a hallmark of being cis

Knowing the history of feminists and LGBT folks and gender oppression in general, I don't think this is as true as it seems, unless you mean a specific type of occupation with gender.

[meadowphoenix]

I don't think connection to gender is something that people inherently have so much that your gender identity is so tied to its recognition. It's important to a lot of folks because of either they know they are being socially transgressive, and so the lack of recognition is an insult, or it's really important to them that they are not seen as socially transgressive in any way. Caring or not caring may be a sign, but it's not necessarily one.

Whether it's a privilege? I mean not for women.

[(Anonymous)]

Most people don't care a whole lot how they're gendered on the internet. I'd say being bothered that someone doesn't refer to you by "they" would be a much bigger indicator that you might identify as NB.

[(Anonymous)]

Interesting thoughts about your gender. I'm NB but I'm pretty sure there are both cis and not-cis people who have the reactions you do. I don't read cis privilege in it.