[ SECRET POST #4979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #4979 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[Jurassic Park]


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[Jeon Somi]


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[Wynonna Earp]


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[The Untamed]


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[Brian Molko of Placebo + Jay Leno = Noel Fielding]


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[The Untamed]






















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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, as an ace woman, most of my guy friends over the years have wanted our relationship to be “more.” Some of them handled my lack of reciprocity badly and made me feel like shit. Others handled it well, but it still ended up ruining our friendship.

So I really, really hate this trope in fiction, due to my own miserable experiences with what it’s like when someone has feelings for you and you don’t reciprocate but they can’t help carrying that torch anyway.

I know it’s not the same, since I’m ace and the female character never is. But it’s still too relatable to me, and not in a good way.

[(Anonymous)]

Are you me?? I've only had one dude stick around after I said I didn't want a date.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - I am absolutely not telling you how you should feel, but honestly, IMO it's much better if the guy breaks off the friendship if he knows the friendship isn't going to satisfy him.

In my case, the guys always stick around. For years and years. And we're friends, but also, they wish it was more, and we both know it. And at first it seems like no big deal, but over time it starts to eat them up. Like, they could be out dating other girls, but they're not because they're hanging with me. And then I feel horrible for not reciprocating, and they feel horrible for having these feelings and desires that are hopeless and unreturned.

IDK, I guess it's pretty sucky either way. I mean, if the guy just bounces as soon as he finds out he's not going to be scoring with you, I can see how that would really hurt. So maybe I was too hasty to say it's worse when the guy stays and the lack of reciprocity slowly ruins the friendship and causes you both pain over a period of years. Both ways suck.

[(Anonymous)]

As another ace, Ive had this happen and I agree with the anon above me. As much as it sucks to lose the friendship, it's usually easier if the unrequited move off and do their own thing (mostly bc in my experience they are incredibly entitled and gross about it, not bc I feel awkward. I had one guy get violently angry when I cut my hair and even more so when i rightfully pointed out that we weren't together so he had zero say in anything i did with my hair.)

That said, I cherish the guys that stick around all the better, because I know theyre really my friends.

[(Anonymous)]

I think you're missing the point. It's better when the guy with unrequited love breaks it off because he knows it's going to be awkward for both parties if he likes her and it hurts too much to stick around as just a friend. It's better because he respects that the girl's feelings aren't going to change, so he's not going to be waiting around expecting it to become more than a friendship.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm pretty sure he'd have zero say in anything you did with your hair even if you were together.

DA

[(Anonymous)]

Are you me?