fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #5033 ]

[ SECRET POST #5033 ]

⌈ Secret Post #5033 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04. https://i.imgur.com/jliRtO9.png
[OP marked NSFW]

__________________________________________________

05. [WARNING for discussion of sexual assault]

__________________________________________________

06. [WARNING for discussion of underage/grooming]

__________________________________________________

07. [WARNING for discussion of possible sexual harassment]

[Ryan Haywood of Achievement Hunter]

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #719.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

I started playing violin again about three weeks ago after a hiatus of 17 years. I was never exceptional because I never practiced enough due to my mum thinking she was hilarious making funny comments about how bad it was living with someone learning violin for the first time. But I was competent enough to play easier pieces in tune etc.

Not surprisingly I'm terrible after so long not playing, but I'm doing something I never did as a kid: practicing every day. And every day something clicks and sounds better. Little by little. It doesn't sound like much, probably sounds screechy to everyone else still but I know the difference. I keep playing because of that, but also because "fuck you mother - you're meant to ENCOURAGE your child, not destroy their self-esteem!" (I have many other things in my life where I could level that accusation at her btw.)

Oh man. My dad was like this too! Hugs to you, nonny.

People found it really strange that he was a music teacher and I can't play any instruments or read sheet music. We had a piano in our living room. I asked him to teach me piano for every birthday and christmas for years. He played 3 Blind Mice for me once and told me I was only allowed to talk to him when I could play it all the way through. I was so excited to show him when I found all the right keys and put it all together and all he said was that I was a smart arse who thought I knew everything. Failed every prac exam in HS music class because I couldn't play in front of other people.

I hope your violin playing brings you joy now. People suck but music is great.

The cobbler's child is often the least well-shod. I'm sorry your father was/is such a git.

Thank you. I didn't know that saying, but it is definitely a theme in our relationship. It's nice to look back as an adult and realise I wasn't the defective one.

Damn I can't believe a music teacher of all people was like that! I'm sorry anon.

I always worried I was being too sensitive but I feel like, yes listening to a newbie play anything isn't the most pleasing sound in the world but after probably the second joke about wanting to stab your ears it does start to get to the person trying to learn :/

He was a popular teacher too. Everyone liked him. He's very friendly to everyone outside of the family.

As an adult I can't imagine talking to a kid like that. Even if I had a headache or something. There are ways to get some peace and quiet that don't require you to damage their self-esteem.

High five! And your mom sucks for joking like that. My family was like that when I tried to learn to play guitar. They thought they were being funny, but it was very hurtful and made me feel like I wasn't progressing, so I put my guitar away and didn't play for years. I picked it up again a few months ago and I had to start from square one again, but without people making fun of me, I can actually hear the difference between how my playing was last month and how it is today.

Sorry your family sucked in this way too and diminished your love of guitar. I know what you mean about putting it away. When I left school and so my easiest access to lessons stopped I tried tuning the violin myself during my summer holidays between that and starting college, and ended up snapping a string. It was the perfect excuse for me to shut the case and never try again because I didn't want my mum to hear me play.

Good luck with your journey getting to know guitar again. It's so much nicer being able to practice without wisecracks about the noise!

Yay!!!

I'm sorry your mom belittled you like that; good for you for taking up the violin again.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

[ SECRET POST #5033 ]

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things

Re: It's the little things