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⌈ Secret Post #5336 ⌋

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Re: Envy/Jealousy

[(Anonymous)]

When I Envy Others: It can really set off my insecurities. I've been working really hard on recognizing and forcing myself to admit that what I feel is envy/jealousy. I literally have to mentally have a conversation with myself to get over the bitterness. What I feel is about my insecurities. I can allow myself to feel good for the other person (if I feel they deserve it, and most times they do since they're my friends and relatives and people I like; if they're someone I don't know or don't like most times I can't work up to that but I do have to force myself to think "IT'S NOT ABOUT THEM IT'S ABOUT YOU FEELING INSECURE"), and then I tell myself, "Stop comparing yourself to others! Others' successes aren't your failures! If other people think this fuck them! You live your life for you, stop worrying what others think." And then I usually follow up with doing something that will distract my mind and/or lift my mood. Just doing something else will force me to keep go forward. I can't sit around in my bitterness, I can only do that for so long (and sometimes it takes me a long time to slog through that).

Receiving: Um...I try not to remember them. People can become petty and I don't know what I'm supposed to do. I have to start setting up boundaries. Like, I had a friend who I thought I could talk to about anything but then I got this weird vibe from her and it turns out a guy she liked harbored a crush on me. I couldn't talk to her about my dating life anymore and when she'd want to talk and it'd go towards her dating life I'd have to tell her, "Hey, uh, I gotta go." And then we stopped being friends. Like...I don't know why my dating life is different from hers? Just because a guy liked me I can't get insecure about my dating life and my looks? I have to hide my insecurities to coddle you? OK...

TL;DR we need to stop projecting our insecurities onto others; you have a problem, deal with it your ways, don't take it out on the wrong parties