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⌈ Secret Post #5371 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

I'm thinking the "what is wrong with you" applies to the expectation that one will share their food after the other person outright rejected the offer. But that's just my interpretation. I'm not even sure the other person asked after the fact, or if OP just interpreted "I'm hungry" as "share your food with me."

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

i don't know why all of you seem to think that i'm not understanding what they are angry about. i understand what they are angry about. i do not understand why they, or you guys, get that angry at someone for asking for a share of your food because they had an opportunity to get some but didn't.
is it annoying? sure, but it's not a moral failing and you can very easily say no. they're not snatching the food from your mouth. that is my confusion, hope this helps.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

... because it's rude and entitled? you're not entitled to any part of anything that someone else bought for themselves, full stop. it belongs to them. they bought it. you have no right to ask for some and doing so is incredibly bad manners.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

I don't see it as a moral failing, but I do see it as a problem if it happens repeatedly.

"you can very easily say no. they're not snatching the food from your mouth"

Hmm... well, here's the thing. Not everyone is brought up to believe they are allowed to set boundaries, or that they aren't responsible for someone else's inability to act, so I would not assume that someone "can very easily say no."

OP is venting. They are resentful of something. Perhaps you should let them vent.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

Not everyone is brought up to believe they are allowed to set boundaries

This is bullshit. Nobody is so isolated that they're unaware that the ability to say no exists, and the fact that other people routinely do so. Everyone knows they can say no, and if it's harder for them because of their upbringing, I get it because I'm in the same boat, but I can still do it.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

A lot of people hate to see another person go hungry and ALSO, it's considered rude to eat in front of someone who's hungry, which is why we don't go have picnics on the pavement in front of homeless rough sleepers.

So yes, passing on a meal and then asking for someone else's is entitled and taking advantage of their manners and good nature.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

Clearly, you don't get it. And don't diminish other people's struggles by calling something bullshit, just because YOU personally succeeded at something.

Nobody said that saying no is impossible to do. They just said it isn't easy. I trust you know the difference.

Re: Vent

[(Anonymous)]

You've moved the goalposts a bit, there. Did you notice? First you said you were surprised that OP would get annoyed because "someone would only realise they're hungry when confronted with food". Then people explained to you that this wasn't the problem, it was asking for someone else's food after you'd passed up the opportunity to get your own food.

Now you're talking about why people would "get that angry at someone for asking for a share of your food because they had an opportunity to get some but didn't." Here's why - because it's rude. Even if OP can and does say no... it's still rude. If you have the chance to order food (on OP's dime, even!) and see that your own basic needs are met, and you pass up that opportunity and regret it later... well, that sucks, but it's on you. It's not other peoples' responsibility to fix your error by giving up their food to you. It's rude to ask other people to take responsibility for your error in judgment.

It doesn't have to be a huge error in judgment or a moral failing to be annoying. Small things can be annoying, too.