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Do you panic when you put on weight? I'm trying to work out how messed up I am lol

No, I don't.

Yes but not exclusively because of relationships; I think about my weight too much in general. I used to suffer with bulimia because of it; was effectively 'forced out of the condition' due to resulting health problems years later. I suspect most women worry about their weight more than is necessary or healthy.

No. I was actually the heaviest I've ever been when we married. Been going down ever since. No worries if I go back up.

I'm pretty heavy so I don't appreciate gaining more weight. My husband has made it super clear he wants me to be happy and healthy and he'll love me at any size and he's getting heavier too. It's kind of just a part of growing older.

If you're experiencing dramatic changes in weight that's a worrying health thing. If you're worried how your romantic partner will treat you gaining weight (and aging) that's worth a conversation.

No, but I’m peri menopausal and it’s very easy to put on weight that’s hard to lose. I don’t panic because of my partner, just because of doing what’s best for my health.

You're not messed up regardless; that's society's obsession with thinness getting into your head, and it happens to the best of us.

To answer the question: I don't, but we've also been together for almost twenty years have been through several "up" and "down" cycles with our bodies, haha. Even then, though... idk how much of this is because we're both women, so we're entirely aware of the societal pressure to be thin, but it's never really come up as an issue.

No. I do find it frustrating when clothes don't fit but... they're material goods and I can find new clothes.

When I was growing up, my mum was constantly dieting and watching her weight. And all those years, she was just... the same kind of huggable and squishy?

I swore I would never waste my life on fretting about that.

(I do fret about eating enough vegetables. I don't like them but I know they're good for me.)

But also, OP, a lot of people do worry about things like this (cf. my mum). You're not messed up if it bothers you, you're just a person.

Nope. I'm a little bummed, mostly because I'm trying to avoid type 2 diabetes (family history) but "panic" is... a bit strong. You ask about relationships. If you're panicking because you fear a negative reaction from your partner about weight gain, yeah, that's messed up.

The fact that you're asking the female members of FS is no big deal (diet culture is much, much worse for women than men) but the fact you're asking those of us who are in relationships kind of makes me worry. What relationship are you in that gaining weight would make you panic about that specifically?

My OH has always started straying when I put on weight. My father used to berate my mother for her weight and is a massive pervert overall. It's a messy subject.

Your OH sounds like an absolute piece of shit. It's not your weight and never will be--they're a cheater who wants you to feel like it's your fault, not theirs.

Because of my history, I have a hard time believing not every man is like this.

Better to be alone that with someone who cheats and makes you panic about your weight. Plus, even if you have trouble believing that all men aren't like this, you aren't going to find out either way if you stay with the one you KNOW is. Dump his shitty ass and try a few others before deciding, or just be by yourself for a while.

I don't worry about it in relation to my husband but it's an issue just because of how fatphobic my family is. My husband has a type of chronic illness that demands controlled physical activity on the regular so we both do our best to maintain fitness (some periods are better than others), rather than worrying about the weight itself.

Dunno, are you worried about your partner losing attraction towards you? How serious is your relationship to begin with?

Together 19 years, married 7.

A little, but it has nothing to do with being in a relationship. I've always had an unhealthy relationship with my weight, right back to being a teen, so whether I'm living with someone or not I have a constant low key anxiety about it. Try not to let yourself become like me.

Nope. SO doesn't care, so I don't worry if I happen to gain a few pounds. Sure, I'm trying to maintain/lose some stubborn weight, but if I gain, it's more of an "Oops, I guess no dessert for me for awhile" type of deals.

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