[ SECRET POST #6013 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6013 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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[The Witcher: Blood Origin]



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[Taskmaster]



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07. [WARNING for discussion of child pornography, child molestation/underage sexual assault]




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08. [WARNING for child molestation]

[Mysterious Skin]





























Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 00 pages, 00 secrets from Secret Submission Post #859.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Oof. Well, hearing that a lot of people just ghosted them for no apparent reason would've been a big red flag for me, because... yeah, there's got to be a reason and staying friends with them increases one's chances of finding out firsthand. Also, your friend clearly knew this and still wanted to put the burden on someone else for managing their problems, so that's not cool.

That said, I would've straight up told them that their insecurities were causing them to be clingy and pushy and that will alienate people.

[(Anonymous)]

They could have been neurodivergent and simply not realized they were being clingy. I think honesty (without harshness) might have been the best policy here. Give them a chance to change and, if they didn't, or didn't fast enough, tell them the friendship wasn't working, but that you still wished them the best. However, I think you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. It's easy to dispense advice when not living through what you did. If you feel guilty, why not try to find this person and simply explain what happened?

[(Anonymous)]

Ehhh. I mean, that'd be a generous approach, but I think it's understandable if not everyone wants to take it. It's not necessarily on OP to teach this person how to treat people, and the confrontation could range from merely awkward to triggering a full on stalker. OP has no way of knowing how mild or serious the reaction could be to telling someone that they're driving people away with their negative behaviors. That's why people ghost - to avoid having to deal with a potential blow up from someone who's already demonstrated a lack of social intelligence or boundaries.

[(Anonymous)]

I get what you're saying. I talk about the possibility of this solution because the ex-fandom-friend themselves put it forward: be honest and tell them if the friendship wasn't working. The "why" is just a bonus.