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⌈ Secret Post #6030 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

This entire thread baffles me and is probably yelling "you're ND" at my face. Actual "childhood compulsive lying" aside, there was a time in my life when I watched seasonal anime, and if you've ever been in that place you know that means watching up to 20 episodes in a week plus whatever you're trying to catch up on. There are shows I *know* I have watched because I tried to watch the same episode five times but didn't get invested at all, and if you ask me anything about it I won't remember. And I'm often able to remember the art style, color pallettes, general motifs/vibes but the story itself, or name a character? Pshh. For most of them I genuinely wouldn't know whether I finished watching or dropped on episode 2 if I didn't have a backlog. Sometimes I forgot to use the backlog, some shows I watched I have less memories of than others I haven't watched but read spoilers for.

When it comes to anime from those eras the question "have you watched..." often deserves a "...maybe?" from me. Pretty sure I may have come across as a liar before for saying I watched something I didn't remember much about, but if you asked me whether I am a fan of the series I would be able to answer accurately, because I only ended up becoming a fan of 1 or 2 series every season and can at least name scenes, characters, ships that interested me at that point in time. But generally I tend to forget details unless I have been very active in the fandom meta for too long.

And honestly I feel like it's the same for compulsive shows-watchers or movie-goers, all those people who'll rot in a chair watching Netflix. When people say "have you watched!!?!?!?" they often mean "isn't this thing amazing???" but maybe you didn't think so, maybe you only... watched and moved on. Maybe this is why I feel happier ever since I became the "no, I haven't" person, because now I only watch things that *really* interest me, meaning I seldom watch anything but at least remember when I do and don't have to be in the tight spot of "should I say I might have but don't remember anything, or...?" . In that sense, it's weird to me that others put so much value in the question of "have you watched...?" but I understand it's because they actually mean "can we gush about the thing?". And what I want to say is: maybe I have but if so it didn't catch my attention, maybe I watched it on a bad day, but yes, you can gush about the thing, maybe then I will remember the thing or get interested if I haven't watched it yet.

[(Anonymous)]

It's not lying though? You don't remember watching the show, you tell people you don't remember. It's not lying, it's stating facts. You don't remember much. It's not active lying as written in the secret

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - No I mean, sometimes I would say "I did" only to later remember I didn't and vice-versa, because it's not something I cared enough to remember the actual answer. Nowadays I'm quick to explain "noo I was mistaken, I mistook that for another show" or whatever, but there was a time when once I realized my mistake I wasn't so keen on admitting to it, because I didn't know how to do it in a not-too-awkward way and it felt like a letdown and I worried about letting others down more than nowadays (lol I am the person who once RPed a character who sang songs from a show I had never watched because I knew the popular songs and that's how I wound up in that situation) .

What I am trying to say is, my memory kind of sucks, so I totally understand people who are like this. On the other hand what do people have to gain from actively lying about something like that? If the answer is "nothing" maybe this is why I don't understand the hatred, or maybe I have never been on the receiving end in a way that bugged me because whether someone else watched a show or not is generally not something I am too concerned about. As stated, sometimes I watched a show and didn't remember anything 2 days later. If I don't care too much for whether I watched a show or not, how could I care too much for whether others have?

Again maybe it's just that I can't imagine the type of situation where this would be a serious matter. Or maybe it's just that I truly see these things in a different way than most fandom people just like I don't care a lot for fanfic or whatever.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

To a lot of the people replying, I think this is not a serious matter. At all. It certainly isn't to me. Even if you deliberately, intentionally lied to me about having seen a show or not seen it, I tend to assume that when I ask a question, people have a right to not answer it or reply in a way that doesn't unduly stress them out. I'm trying to have a conversation with them, not interrogate them!

And not everyone who asks "have you watched this thing?" is necessarily being entirely honest about themselves, either. I've occasionally denied having watched things, on purpose, because I got the impression that the other person was trying to trap me with information (relating to explicit, gay media) that they would use against me, as opposed to trying to find out if it was safe to talk about the thing. No one is just across the board OWED honesty, in all situations.

And IMO, there's really no shortcut to figuring out on a case by case basis how far you can trust other people.

[(Anonymous)]

+ Millions!

[(Anonymous)]

The only sane response in this thread.