[ SECRET POST #6294 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6294 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

DA

Get a load of Negative Nancy over here.

[(Anonymous)]

They're not wrong though. It's great that some people do it if they CAN. You rarely hear from all the folks who couldn't do it, or had no way of knowing how they could until it was too late.

[(Anonymous)]

They don't know OPs situation either, so to just blanket say it's not productive to take a positive stance with the information presented is kind of a jerk move.

[(Anonymous)]

A jerk move? Nah, just realistic. They were taking issue with the phrase "there is no too late." While it's certainly possible that it isn't too late for OP specifically, simply saying "there is no too late" does ignore situations where there are significant barriers to success.

For the record, I do think the original anon meant well. But sometimes you can mean well and not quite hit the mark.

[(Anonymous)]

The only "too late" is when you're dead. Just because you want to wallow and have excuses to never do anything doesn't mean you're right and that you should keep others down with you.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, that's just being pragmatic. It was overly optimistic to tell someone that there's no barrier to starting a whole new career as if wishful thinking and bootstraps will save the day. We don't know how old OP is, what their health is like, or what other circumstances in their life might make going into forensic science very difficult if not impossible. It's not exactly a reach to suggest that it might be challenging to just up and change jobs like that, it's just... the truth?

[(Anonymous)]

You're right, we don't know anything about OP.

So how do we know it's overly optimistic or wishful thinking? We don't. So being negative is just as wrong as being positive. But being positive will get you more results on average because you'll actually try. Your assumptions are not "the truth".

[(Anonymous)]

Except it's not being negative to acknowledge there might be obstacles. OP certainly seems to think so, and nobody else here would know their situation better than OP.

You and the original anon are being a little weird and defensive about this. If there's a dream job that you're going after, that's great and power to you! Other people deciding that it's not possible for them doesn't take anything away from your goals, you know.

[(Anonymous)]

Except that the original comment didn't mention anything other than what was said in the secret. Education and age. OP didn't mention anything else and comment OP only mentioned the existence of an older person who didn't need an education doing the same. Coming in and making up shit about barriers is not "acknowledging" obstacles. It's literally making them up.

Original anon made the one comment. The rest of it is me. I have achieved my goals, so I have no skin in this other than to see rando strangers on the internet take a positive comment about how the stated issues may not actually be an issue and then shit on it with made up disabilities and situations that you have no idea that OP even has and it pissed me off. God forbid someone say something positive.

[(Anonymous)]

The original comment referenced age and education, then said there was no such thing as "too late". That's true, if age and education are the only barriers, and if OP's situation is similar to the anon's aunt. Is it? We don't know. It's also silly not to acknowledge that being in one's 40s is still plenty young to change careers, but that might not be true for someone in their 50s or older.

Again, pointing out that other obstacles might exist besides age and education isn't being negative or "making up disabilities", it's simply acknowledging reality and the fact that not everyone's situation is as amenable as the one described.

[(Anonymous)]

OP didn't suggest any other reason than age. Attributing anything else in response to a post suggesting age may not be a factor is being negative and making shit up. Not everyone's situation is the same, but comment OP addressed the issues secret OP brought up. Anything else is literally being made up by you.

[(Anonymous)]

Your assumptions are not "the truth".

Neither is There is no "too late". Each person's situation is different.

[(Anonymous)]

Secret OP: "I fear it may be too late"

Comment OP: "I have at least one real world example of someone doing it later in life"

You: How dare you not take into account these other issues I've just made up!!11!eleventy

Me: Jesus fucking christ.

[(Anonymous)]

I know multiple people who have started new careers in their 40s and 50s. There is absolutely zero reason not to try.

[(Anonymous)]

The best time was 20 years ago. The second best time is now.

[(Anonymous)]

This is absurd. There is only one way that a person can start a new career when they're older - if they have nothing to lose. If a person has a mortgage, people they're supporting, medical issues, etc., they cannot afford to lose their salary and/or medical benefits. So either a person is in such bad financial shape that the only place they can go is up or they're in such good financial shape that they can afford to coast on their savings or their partner's salary.

[(Anonymous)]

... you do realize that it's entirely possible to take classes in a new field while also working, right? I have a friend in her late 30s who is doing exactly that right now.

[(Anonymous)]

My wife got her masters in her late 30s while working full time.

[(Anonymous)]

Nonny, I am 50 and I am planning on changing my career because I hate the career I have now. I also have a mortgage, people I'm supporting, and I'm ND. It is very scary, and I'm doing it anyway because I have zero intention of hitting the end of my life having only done this shitty work. I will take classes part-time or whatever else I need to do. I get that it's not always possible all the time for everyone to make changes in their lives. It sure wasn't for me, and I may very well fail, and maybe I'm making the wrong choice and a new career will be just as bad for me as the one I have now. But fucked if I'm gonna sit here and be the crab that drags their fellows back down into the pot for trying.