[ SECRET POST #6354 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6354 ⌋

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[fscom]

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[(Anonymous)]

I like many things too. The important things to remember are 1) thought crimes aren't real, 2) there is a time and place for everything. I support you liking anything, and also I advise you to know your audience when you're liking things in public. R Kelly has some great songs and I've ripped a few from the web but I'm not putting them into fanvids or mixtapes for my friends. [/old]

[(Anonymous)]

+1

There's a musician whose songs got me through some bad times. He has some pretty substantial abuse allegations against him and is just honestly a dick to put it lightly. I still like the music and sing along when it's just me and close friends who know why I love it! It doesn't affect anyone or anything. It's okay to like stuff that has a shitty background to it.

The part about not being able to handle criticisms of (thing) and getting really anxious about it sounds like maybe there's other mental health stuff involved though, that sounds stressful. It might help to try to think through what about it upsets you, OP... Is it the thought people might think you're bad? Is it seeing something special to you get judged? Idk, maybe if you can pinpoint it you can get a better idea of where it comes from, and be able to address the anxiety a bit more directly.

[(Anonymous)]

I am the same way with criticism about those things I love in a perhaps unhellthy way. For me, when people critique it or comment on it feels like they are saying those things about me. Like if the music is bad, what they're saying is I'm bad. Oversimplification but you get the gist.

I know, logically, this isn't true but yeah, mental illness at play. It makes normal things explode into ultra sensitive things. Brains are dumb sometimes!

[meadowphoenix]

agree with anon above and would like to add that priding yourself on your consumption habits is probably something you should question. you can't substitute it for thoughtfulness about what actually is and isn't harmful. you're not even contributing monetarily to (thing); having it give you joy is highly unlikely to actually be harmful.

i'd also say that what can sometimes help being so personally invested in a thing that criticism of thing feels personal is to spread around that personal investment so that one thing doesn't take up so much of how you emotionally support yourself.

[(Anonymous)]

I mean, there’s a petition going around Taylor Swift’s fandom right now calling her to make a positive statement on Gaza. The person who started that petition isn't doing it for the victims of the genocide or any other good, it's so they can boast that Taylor said the right thing.

I don't know if this secret applies to pop music fandom, but from what I've seen of it, there's a very big feeling that by being a fan of an asshole - be it an abuser like Chris Brown or a cheater McCheaterpants such as Justin Timberlake, by simply liking something made by a bad person must make you a bad person as well. And the fact that we tend to treat fandoms as a monolith, it's hard not to see where OP is coming from. Especially in a world where we're told that our choices within capitalism - every little one of them, intentional or not - are acts of morality. I'm not too in-depth in other sorts of fandoms, so I wouldn't know if the same moral posturing occurs in those spaces, but I know it's a big aspect of Gen Z/Alpha social media. I also wouldn't be surprised if OP had studied post-modernism sociology in relation to capitalism and Berger’s theory of the Sacred Canopy…

You are what you consume…

[meadowphoenix]

you've met and talked with them or are you making an assumption because you believe TS's fandom or any fandom is Like That?

idk quite know how to respond, because i think i'm saying something more specific which is not that people shouldn't think about what their actions morally do, but that actually acting morally requires more than rote didacticism like "listening to bad people is bad". i think you need to have your own base foundational philosophy that you've thought about before you go trying to apply it to reality with rules, not the other way around.

Especially in a world where we're told
this is actually an interesting bit of limited perspective, since the world is mostly saying that you should buy more to make yourself happy and the moral limitations are far more niche that this phrasing assumes.

[(Anonymous)]

Going to sound like an asshole but damn I am with anon who asked for brevity

[(Anonymous)]

you're right, you are an asshole.

[(Anonymous)]

What is the name of that squeezy stress-reducer thing in the secret? We used to own one of those.

[(Anonymous)]

Just say what (thing) is, it's already anonymous 😭