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⌈ Secret Post #6418 ⌋

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[fscom]

General comments:

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Share some good news!

[(Anonymous)]

KOSA was defeated again. Yay!

Re: Share some good news!

[(Anonymous)]

I got my tickets to see Rifftrax live next week (at the theater's live showing in my town tho, not the actual in-person event)! My theater has Lay-Z-Boy seating, seatside waiter service, and frozen margaritas, so yay!

Re: Share some good news!

[philstar22]

Judge granted out request to end a client's immigration case so he could apply for status through his wife who is in the military. We filed it a couple months ago, just got the decision today.

Also got a client's asylum case filed today, really happy about it. I think we have a decent chance of winning that one.

And finally, my cat has climbed up and gone to sleep on my legs, so all is right in the world.

Re: Share some good news!

[(Anonymous)]

So far no major side effects after my endometrial polyp removal surgery. I was even able to sort some pictures the day after while I took time off work for extra recuperation. (I did go back to work today since I'm feeling pretty good.)

Re: Share some good news!

[(Anonymous)]

The root canal that I had recently is healing very well.

Re: Share some good news!

[(Anonymous)]

I got Charlie XCX concert tickets in October!!!!

Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

...that everyone is super excited about the guy who got into shooting after he had a really bad argument with his ex-wife? Like, that was his motivation to go start shooting things? And he used his platform as an Olympic medalist to make another snipe at her?

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

Didn't see that, but it sure sounds like a red flag. I watch a lot of true crime media. It's sad how many red flags people don't recognize as red flags at the time. It's also a sad indicator of how normalized it is for men to get away with making little "hints" about the violence they're contemplating against other people, but it's okay because it was just a joke or whatever.

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

Did you see this on a post from The Sports Memery, by chance? If so, that is a satire outlet. If you saw it from another source, I am curious where you first spotted it.

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

What are you talking about? Google can’t find anything to support your claims.

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

That's false and just a fake meme.

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[dani_phantasma]

I did see something about how someone found that guy "the coolest person ever" or something bc of it and that was a little weird...

Re: Is anyone a little weirded out...

[(Anonymous)]

I really wish you’d at least said you were talking about the medalist from Turkey even if you couldn’t be bothered to include his name, Yusuf Dikeç. I only just saw the post that you’re talking about and it’s disturbing how easy it is to just make shit up and have people believe it. It’s sad that idiots like you have access to the most powerful research tools in history but rely on being spoon fed all your information.

Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't get the whole nine yards infantilization treatment from my parents. In a way, it's... a little worse? Because on some level they do understand I'm an adult, financially independent, living on my own, etc. But on the other hand they clearly still think of me as a kid - i.e. not that smart, unable to make good decisions, most stuff is just too hard for me and I'll probably fail so I should be more cautious and humble and not attempt it*, unable to figure out how to do basic adult stuff and needing supervision/instruction, etc. etc.

If I were to point this out, they'd strenuously deny it and be offended. As it is, I try to sort of nudge them discreetly by reminding them that I'm an adult who is [my age], I know how to do [basic adult skill] just fine, or by laying out my logical reasons for making this or that decision, which they reluctantly listen to and then reluctantly agree that my choice is the right one. But the next time this comes up, they're right back to acting like I'm a dimwit. A dimwit they love very much! But a dimwit nontheless. I'm about 30% hurt and 70% pissed af about it, but don't really see them changing any time soon.


* This is a particularly poisonous mindset that has really damaged me as an adult and led to issues of insecurity and being too scared to try things. Please don't do this to your kids.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[philstar22]

A lot less than they used to, but my mother does still sometimes. My dad was much worse with this, though, and now that he's passed and honestly now that my mother needs me more for a lot of physical things she can't do, it happens much less often.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[greghousesgf]

MY mother thinks I'm too dumb to know enough to take a towel to a swimming pool.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

That sounds like my parents. It never got better. They always thought of and treated me like I was on the day I left home. I’m almost 50 and my only remaining parent still does this. It doesn’t really bother me anymore; while it sucks that my parents couldn’t be bothered to get to know me or take an interest in my life, it’s still been an awesome life. They’re the ones who have missed out, not me.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

Both of my parents think I can’t be trusted to do simple things like paint a bedroom, hang up a shelf, or figure out which bus goes to the airport. Worse, they get mad at me when I do these things on my own. It’s so freaking bizarre. A part of me thinks it’s because both of my parents lost a parent young and had to grow up fast, so this is their way of protecting me, but it’s really aggravating. And whenever I try to bring it up, they call me ungrateful.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[mishey22]

They didn't treat me like a child when I was one, which is a different issue

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

If your parents spent your childhood telling you that you weren't that smart and shouldn't try things because you'd obviously fail, the problem started before you were an adult.

Like my mom still reminds me to take a towel swimming but that's because she knows what our family is like. I also remind her to take a towel swimming. Because we often forget things like towels. Neither of us thinks we're infantilizing each other when we show care. But also even when I was a toddler she treated me as someone who was smart and capable and always learning new things and getting better, and that didn't change when I turned 18 either.

I'm sure for a lot of people their parents not seeing them as adults is a problem, especially when they're new adults, but a lot of times when
I'm listening I'm thinking to myself really, the problem is they didn't like or respect you when you were a kid, either.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

My husband and I both have parents that think of us as being around 15-18. We think it’s because we each left home quite young (16 for me, 18 for him) and moved very far away. Our parents never saw the development and have such strong mental images of who we are that they are blind to reality when we’re around them. It’s pretty aggravating. Neither of us had particularly good parents (his mom is good but his dad is so bad that it cancels her out and both my parents are worse than his dad). We’ve pretty much come to terms with having no real family outside our own household. My mother was a true narcissist and used to tell me regularly that she loved me but didn’t like me. She was also very vocal about owning me and having the papers to prove it (my adoption papers). Thankfully she’s dead and life is a lot better now.
I try to remember to text my father every few weeks and I always give any help when he asks. But damn it’s humiliating? annoying? insulting? hurtful? that he thinks he has to walk me through hooking up the garden hose and turning it on. There are more issues, far deeper than the little things like that. He doesn’t listen to me and doesn’t know anything about me. He is dismissive of my accomplishments and experiences. He is dismissive about my health problems because I’m not terminally ill. He often complains that my family is an inconvenience or obstacle, sometimes meaning for me and sometimes meaning for himself. He wouldn’t be happy with my lifestyle and so insists I’m miserable when in fact I’m very happy. My life is just how I want it with the exception of having crappy parents.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

As the parent, I am listening to my kids when they bring this type of situation up and working very hard on changing my behavior. I still offer support, but they are adults and they get to decide how they want to do things. I’m ancillary at this point, and that’s how it’s supposed to be.

Re: Adults of FS, do your parents still treat you like a child?

[(Anonymous)]

Nope. Though they don't let me pay for stuff when I am with them but that's more because they know how shit the economy is lol.

TW for sexual assault allegations and Neil Gaiman

[(Anonymous)]

Two more women have made allegations about Neil Gaiman:

https://www.thebookseller.com/news/neil-gaiman-denies-new-sexual-assault-and-abuse-allegations-by-two-women