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⌈ Secret Post #6463 ⌋

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Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I’m a little frustrated with my friends. We’ve been talking about taking a trip together for ages and decided to go to Korea next April, but every time I try to talk about flights or hotels or what we’re going to do out there, they all get kinda vague and say it’s too soon to start planning. I’m always the one planning stuff, but I don’t want to book anything if they’re gonna bail on me like they sometimes do.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I’ve been on the opposite side of this. The organizer wanting to lock in dates and get everything booked 6-9 months in advance. That is genuinely way too far out for me. I can’t put in a request for time off that far out from the date. And in my case, it’s always just a few weeks between saying let’s do it to suddenly I need to pay thousands without having a chance to save any money for it, I have to dig into my main savings account. I absolutely hate it and have yet to actually go on any of those trips. Less than half who would ever end up going and it’s always the same few people who don’t work and have a spouse who makes a lot of money.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

whaaat this is the perfect time to start planning, to get the best airfare and hotel prices.

buy your ticket and tell them "well, if you don't want to buy now, I guess you're not going when the flight sells out." friends with a track record of bailing get no hand-holding help from you, don't budge or you'll be stuck regretting it yet again.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

I was gonna say, if you actually want to get good prices then you need to plan at LEAST six months in advance. That holds true for domestic trips too.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

Have you all traveled together before this way, I. E a major international trip? I'd be cautious. It doesn't sound like your travel styles mesh well. I'd even question if they really want to go, because half of the fun is in deciding what to do and where to go.

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

For me, I'd write down what my ideal plans are or write down some destinations/goals I really want to do.
Share it with my friends and ask them if we could get back together in a certain amount of time to make some more concrete plans.

If they are receptive to this and add in their plans/wants, I'd make sure to have a deadline on locking down on our absolute yes's (are we flying out together/separate? If anyone needs me to buy them their airfare they need to give me their money by X date. Agreement on activities/locations we all know we want to hit, always leave room for free time because nothing ever goes according to plan and delays happen a lot).

If my friends are being mealy mouthed I will be upfront in telling them, "I've done this, these are my plans, this is what is on my itinerary."

I've mostly solo traveled and when I had to organize a family trip for a family event, my siblings are way too passive to make plans with me that I did all the planning and asked everyone if they were OK with the prices on airfare, car rental, and hotel stay.

I personally hate planning solo but if my group is filled with people who can't make decisions (or take forever doing it), I would rather make all the plans and order everyone around (or leave people behind if they are going to be slow and/or uncommunicative) than sit around and wait for everyone to do things at the last minute, as if we're 19 yo college kids.
Planning things are really stressful for me so I try to get ahead of plans as much as possible and having to factor other people in always heightens the stress (unless they're a good planner and communicate well with me).

Re: Vent thread

[(Anonymous)]

At least you have friends.