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⌈ Secret Post #6887 ⌋

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[fscom]

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Transcript by OP

[fscom]

I'm at the age where people ask when I'm going to have kids, and I tell them in all seriousness that I prefer video games.
They always think it's a joke, but it's not. I would 100% resent it if a child cut into my hobby time.
Why would you want a child to have a parent like me?

[(Anonymous)]

I'm lucky, in that nobody around me has ever pestered me about when I was planning on having children. Not even when I moved in with a partner. Having an aunt and uncle who decided to forego having a family helped buttress any potential bingoing.

Even my own mother learned to accept my choice, and while I'm more than happy to be a doting aunt to a cool nephew and a brand new niece, at the end of the day, I can give them back to their parents.

[(Anonymous)]

DA

I love my sister's kids and I would do so much for them just to make them happy or to feel seen, but yeah, I know that I can always hand the kids back to their parents. That's a reason I can hold my patience for them, I know that I have a an end point with them XD

[(Anonymous)]

It's fucking weird how invested some folks are in other people's sex lives and reproductive decisions. It's one thing to ask "do you have kids?" or "you think you'll have kids someday?" But asking "when"? Nah, fuck off with that shit unless you're my partner and we've had actual discussions about it.

[(Anonymous)]

In our 20s-early 30s, one of my friends would often say "I can't wait until you have kids of your own" to me and I never knew how to tell her that I wasn't sure if I even wanted kids.
Somewhere in our mid 30s she changed it to "do you think you'll have kids?"
The change in framing helped open up more communication between us.

It's frustrating to deal with a society that expects us to become parents the second we hit adult age. And the shame that comes along with not wanting them or not being sure just makes the whole thing a pain to deal with

[(Anonymous)]

For me, it's that I'm a very spontaneous person and kids would ruin that. I'm constantly heading off on spur-of-the-moment weekend adventures and I couldn't do that if I had kids to worry about, so why would I want them?

[feotakahari]

I’m just not awake often enough, especially after I got COVID.

[(Anonymous)]

I should warn you, it never ends. People will be trying to guilt trip you about not having kids when you're in your SEVENTIES.

[(Anonymous)]

Well, it ended for us in our 40s when we were married for 20 years and obviously had no kids?

[(Anonymous)]

There’s a few people in my life who know me and thus understand exactly what kind of shitty parent I’d be so knew that I’d never have them, but way too many are under some bizarre impression that my ‘hates to be touched without express permission’ would ever do well with kids at all.

Thankfully my parents have never pressured me about it and don’t question my lack of kids, because I gotta tell you OP even being gay doesn’t stop it.

[dinogrrl]

You know yourself better than outsiders. If you know you'd prioritize a hobby over kids, you're absolutely right in not having kids. And that's not a judgemental statement, but an agreement with facts.

[(Anonymous)]

People are weird. I still get asked sometimes by people who don’t know me very well because they assume I’m about ten years younger than I really am. Thankfully I haven’t had to hear it from family (even distant relatives) for a long time.

[(Anonymous)]

No prizes for guessing why you look ten years younger than you actually are.

[(Anonymous)]

Urgh another crappy AI pic in the secret

[(Anonymous)]

I wish a lot more people would be self-aware enough to decide this! Having a kid and then resenting them is fucked up.

[(Anonymous)]

I used to be uncertain about whether or not I wanted kids until I found out from my sister and friends that when they had kids, sleep becomes a thing you sacrifice when needed. When they're babies, when they have a nightmare as a child, when they're sick, etc.

I've always struggled with sleep and discovering that sacrificing sleep for years, and to know you have to take care of others even when you're sick too?

I knew I wasn't cut out for that sort of sacrifice.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel the same, not specifically about video games but about my hobbies. When I was younger I'd constantly get told that eventually I'd get bored of them and they wouldn't be as fun when I'd be 40 or 50, well... I'm 40 now and not only the hobbies I had when I was 20 are still as fun, but the older I've gotten the more I've discovered new things I like, and have become even less willing to give up any of my free time.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm the same. My mother's wanted grandkids since I was 19 and my cousins started having kids, and I quickly soured on the idea the more she pushed for it. The older I get, the more I realize I'm perfectly happy not to have kids.