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There's a girl in one of my fandoms who whines about how participating in Kinktober "traumatized" her and that she's not going to post her stories online anymore because.

It makes me wish that I could get her in contact with a war vet or a SA survivor who can tell her what REAL trauma is.

The cause of her trauma? Another author's stories were more popular than hers. Yes, really.

She sounds very young and very self-absorbed, tbh. Life has a way of correcting that for most people. I also predict that she'll be back soon.

1) She's in her early 30's.

2) She's pulled that "I'm never posting again!" stunt many times over the years, so she'll definitely be back.

She sounds mentally ill. And I don't mean that as a pejorative. She sounds like she genuinely has something going on and is perceiving the world differently than us.

She sounds mentally ill.

Sadly, that's an understatement.

oh good lord, that is insufferable... like, I could summon up some sympathy for someone who was digging into a kink they'd never written before and found themselves in a bad place over it, I've been there and I wouldn't say it 'traumatized' me but I get how someone without serious trauma might mistake that kind of discomfort for it. But for it to be because someone else was popular??

I am so tired of how people online frame discomfort or having their feelings hurt as traumatic. I don't want to sound like a boomer but some people really need perspective or real problems.

Eh. While I definitely agree with you there is something wrong with this person, I think there is at least a hyperbolic/jokey sense of "traumatic" where it refers to like "harrowing experience I would not like to go through again and which I still have nightmares/random distressing recollections of" and doing a Kinktober alongside another author in the fandom and getting concrete evidence they're more popular but having to keep pushing through because you already committed to finishing/already wrote the stories does seem kinda "traumatic" in that exaggerated/jokey sense. (I know people don't like people using "traumatic" in that colloquial, non-medical sense but I also think the horse has already long left that stable.)

But yeah, if this person is complaining about this in public where the other author could see (which I assume they are?), that is INCREDIBLY gauche and lacking in self-consciousness. And the threatening to quit posting stories is just a juvenile temper tantrum. Definitely a terrible look.

You don't need to be in 2000m of water to drown. Most people down in just a few metres, and in the wrong circumstances can drown in just a few centimetres. None of these drownings are more tragic or validated than any other.

Same goes for trauma.

Good comment.

+1 and I’m a veteran with PTSD.

If your trauma is that you didn't get as many likes on your kinktober fic as another author, I would argue that your drowning was less tragic and less validated than any other.

I agree but doubt that’s really what happened. A story like that is always in the secret, not added by the OP in the comments after it’s posted.

So your first paragraph I'm with you, but you lost me in the second with the oppression Olympics attitude.

I hate oppression olympics. And I hate people using therapy talk.

I would have silently noped out of the fandom lmao

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