[ SECRET POST #6988 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #6988 ⌋

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[fscom]

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[fscom]

I do understand fans that cannot help but take in the negativity that's online about their fandom. I know lots of fandomy people that have to manage their own experience by avoiding places that they wish they could enjoy but can't for whatever reason, and I sympathize with that.

But... I lose that sympathy as soon as they refuse to manage their own experience and whine that it's everyone else's fault that they couldn't stop themselves from engaging with things they dislike over and over again.

[(Anonymous)]

It's funny sometimes. People really love to plant their feet, declare that they're morally right, then do nothing to change their surroundings or their interactions because they shouldn't have to change, everyone else should change for them. When everyone else unsurprisingly fails to change for them, they sit there complaining because they don't know what else to do. The thought of leaving never crosses their minds because by god they were here first and are morally correct!

Sometimes you can be completely right on principle and still have to be the one to adjust how you engage. Demanding people and places change for you is yelling at clouds. That's unfortunately just life.

[iff_and_xor]

You’re not wrong. I have this tendency towards naivety where I think that starting with a healthy dose of validation will help that advice stick a bit better. And maybe that is true sometimes, but some people clearly can’t move past “this is unfair (or not how I think it should be)” in order to get to practical steps.

[(Anonymous)]

I remember once coming across a discussion wherein one person was complaining that in Discord, if you block someone, then it only blocks them for you. The reason this bothered them is that they could not stop thinking about the fact that someone they'd blocked was still present on the server they were in, and felt a constant temptation to unblock them and see what they were saying. Since they were willing this temptation, they felt that the person they'd blocked was actively harassing them by continuing to exist on the server, despite making no attempts to circumvent the block.

I share this anecdote because I agree with you, but also I think sometimes people like this are actually motivated more by a desire to control other people than by a desire for personal comfort.

[(Anonymous)]

I think sometimes people like this are actually motivated more by a desire to control other people than by a desire for personal comfort.

I think that basically describes the reason for a good percentage of misery in the world.

Also that story is hilarious to me. I've blocked people in Discord but have never had that problem of even noticing they were still in the server?

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Right! I've rarely felt the need to block anyone, but when I have, I haven't really thought about them again (well, except for right now), let alone worried about them still being out there, somewhere, on the same platform as me. To obsess over someone you've blocked and who is no longer even trying to interact with you is kind of the definition of a "you" problem.

I think that basically describes the reason for a good percentage of misery in the world.

You're not wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

I have come to believe people who complain but refuse to do something about it, that's exactly where they want to be.

In a position where they see something that upsets them and they complain about it.

So I leave those folks be.