[ SECRET POST #7028 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #7028 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.


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06. [WARNING for discussion of assault, ableism]
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Transcript by OP

[fscom]

How did I learn Nicholas Brendon had died?

I saw a bunch of midgets dancing around singing "Ding-Dong, The Creep is dead" and wearing Buffy shirts. I thought it was Joss Whedon at first.

Nah, I'm joking. It was reddit. I just wish it was the munchkin dance. Any short folks up for a performance piece at the next Buffy con?

[(Anonymous)]

Sure wish this weird edgelord nonsense would stay on reddit.

[(Anonymous)]

I like to assume it is just one anons failure at humor. Repeatedly. Every now and then there are secrets in this very specific style and I just roll my eyes and scroll on by.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah. Sometimes I can see that an attempt at humor was intended, but it's just a little...off. Like someone's a tad manic, or something.

[(Anonymous)]

I can’t even parse this secret as legible English tbh, like the words are there but they don’t make any sense.

[(Anonymous)]

DA
I’m glad it isn’t just me! I saw the post probably minutes after it went up and spent half an hour reading loads of stuff on him to figure out what OP was talking about. And then it finally dawned on me that they were just doing the whole ding dong the witch is dead thing but changed it to creep and everything after had nothing to do with the Munchkins specifically.

[(Anonymous)]

Same! I was wondering if it was just me, lol.

[(Anonymous)]

Wow. I didn't know he was dead.

[(Anonymous)]

Heart failure. He was a shitty person but his friends amd family said he had started to deal and turn his life around recently.

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DA
I’m sorry for his loved ones that he’s gone. I’m especially sorry for his twin because losing a twin is a heartache most can’t understand.

But it really looks like the only reason he didn’t assault any women in his last few years was because he wasn’t physically capable and also had little opportunity.

[(Anonymous)]

Apparently he was getting sober and on meds. Idk much beyond that.

It sucks to lose someone even if they were a shitty person. I remember consoling a grieving friend when their shitty abusive dad died and she said the grief was almost like she was mourning the loss of the relationship they could have had or the person he could have been. But there was so much anger too. Its a complicated mess.

[(Anonymous)]

Family will always say that. They have to.

[(Anonymous)]

No they def don't

[(Anonymous)]

Many feel like they have to. If you read his family’s statement, it really seems like they thought they had to. The tributes from the Buffy cast are eye opening, including the many that post tributes. Although to be fair, Anthony Head probably didn’t because he isn’t really a social media kinda person unless he’s order to use it by a studio and his partner of over forty years just died, so it’s understandable he didn’t post anything anywhere.

[(Anonymous)]

In general, I've never been a fan of the whole, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all," thing. Too much overlap with toxic positivity for my liking. However, I feel like after someone has just died is one of the few times where I tend to think it's a decent principle. Not because people who do terrible things deserve to be automatically forgiven and have their misdeeds forgotten in death or anything like that, but because, 1. they may have loved ones who are grieving them regardless, 2. they're no longer around to cause harm so being punitive serves litte purpose, and 3. everyone who has lived has done wrong in someone's eyes and I just don't think the fear of getting cancelled at our own wakes is the kind of thing that's likely to improve lives or make people kinder.

IDK, maybe it's also that shittalking someone who just died feels like unnecessarily feeding one's own bitterness, to me? (This doesn't apply to people who were personally harmed by the individual; you wanna spit on the fresh grave of the person who assaulted you, I'll get out of your way.)

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I think there's also a factor of degrees, or levels, of shittiness. there are certain people in the world whose death will inspire full on rave parties, and I'm kind of here going, depending on the degree of shittiness, the celebration level should proprortionately dial down. I don't know of any obvious shitty things Brendan did or allegedly did, at what time, to what people, or how he has since not been shitty, but he's still a degree or two lower than Joss Whedon himself, who is still a degree or five lower than JKR, who is still less than the antichrist.

It feels weird to celebrate this death when it's more lamentable. I can think of a dozen people whose deaths I would celebrate, Brendan wasn't even close to the top 50 of celebratable. Depressing, "alas," "oh well" maybe but not worth celebrating.

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT - Totally agree. There are absolutely people whose death I will celebrate, but Brendan gets nowhere near the shittiness threshold for me.

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DA
Agree. If nothing else it's good to respect the people who were close to the person who has passed and don't intrude on everything they have to sort out. Especially since when it comes to the internet, the majority of people are just rubberneckers that want to write some zingers, they were never victimized and don't have any skin in the game.

You're right about the bitterness. It stirs up negative emotions in your own body which is tough, and then it makes things more difficult for the surviving friends and family, which is tougher.