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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2010-06-08 06:18 pm

[ SECRET POST #1253 ]


⌈ Secret Post #1253 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 14 pages, 347 secrets from Secret Submission Post #179.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 2 - broken links ], [ 1 2 3 4 5 - not!secrets ], [ 1 2 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 4 - too big ], [ 1 2 - repeat ], [ 1 2 3 4 5 - doing it wrong ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

[identity profile] fscom.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 10:25 pm (UTC)(link)
133. http://i50.tinypic.com/4j95bk.jpg

neat-lookin' couch

[identity profile] ferricent.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 10:47 pm (UTC)(link)
How does that "prove he's right"?

not OP, but

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(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 10:54 pm (UTC)(link)
Maybe your shrink is prejudiced against fandom.

You shouldn't be made to feel guilty for doing what you enjoy.

(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Yeah, part of why I am scared of getting help is that a doctor might not understand fandom and want me to get out of it. Fandom has helped me a ridiculous about.

Yeah, I should likely practice more moderation, but I ain't never leaving.

[identity profile] dar-actually.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Friends don't let friends read fanfiction.

(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 10:58 pm (UTC)(link)
How does that prove he's right? Anyone would be upset at the idea of being permanently cut off from part of their life.

I suggest you ditch the shrink and find some real friends to help you work through your issues (and by "real," I don't necessarily mean "offline," I mean "the kind who actually care about you and don't charge you by the hour").

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no just no

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(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 11:04 pm (UTC)(link)
To be quite honest, unless you are addicted to the internet, or are otherwise obsessed to the point where it's interfering with your daily life (which, if that's the case, just quietly ignore me,) I don't think anyone has a right to ask you to leave fandom. Moderation is always better than excess, but why leave entirely? Bookmark fic to read on the weekends instead of at work, or be comfortable with being absent for party posts.

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[identity profile] kimoto.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:12 pm (UTC)(link)
If someone told me I should do my life without something I really like I would be terrefied as well.

[identity profile] missing-mile-15.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:19 pm (UTC)(link)
It depends. Are so obsessed that it's interfering with your daily life and you're unable to get things done? If not, I'd recommend a new shrink.

[identity profile] softly-me.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:26 pm (UTC)(link)
Everyone's got a hobby. Why should you stop doing something you enjoy in your spare time?

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(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 11:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Completely random, but that couch looks like Moya from Farscape.

my dream for this secret

[identity profile] ferricent.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
Ask your shrink what sort of shows, books, etc. they like.
Try to get them into fandom.

[identity profile] syrenstar.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:40 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't know your history OP so I can't judge your psychologist however there's nothing wrong with questioning the validity of the advice they're giving you.

Some people, and that includes trained professionals, simply don't understand the appeal of fandom or online gaming or any type of gaming so they dismiss it. The real question is why are they suggesting you pull back from fandom and are those reasons legit?

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[identity profile] iiiskaaa.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Without knowing any more about your situation than just what you've put in this secret, I can't guess whether you really have a problem or not. If it's really interfering with your life, then yeah, you probably should scale it back, but cutting it out completely? IDK. There are lots of things that I would be terrified at the idea of giving up, but that alone does not mean those things are problems or that I need to remove them from my life completely. I can't imagine giving up listening to music. Does that mean I should delete all my mp3s and sell my CD collection? Of course not.

[identity profile] bloodrivendream.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:49 pm (UTC)(link)
So... you decided to tell other fandom people instead?

Honestly, it all depends on your situation. And none of us know what that is.

If you think you need a second opinion, get a second opinion.
If you think your shrink is really and truly right, then quit fandom.

OP

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[identity profile] fire-at-wi11.livejournal.com 2010-06-08 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
I would say you could cut back if it's really taking over time you need for other things, but there's nothing wrong with reading SOME fanfic, you don't have to give it all up, just cut back some.

(Anonymous) 2010-06-08 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm sad because I think this sounds like it could be by my closest fandom friend.

I'm sadder because I KNOW it could be about me (minus the shrink being the one to say it).

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[identity profile] pelespen.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:01 am (UTC)(link)
I wish you all the luck in the world, OP. Would it help if you started finding new reading material that was similar to your fanfiction tastes? There's a lot of original fiction out there that serves as a great distraction from fandom. I don't know, though - I guess it depends on what kind of fandom activities you participate in.

OP

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(Anonymous) 2010-06-09 12:03 am (UTC)(link)
What specifically is wrong with you that leaving fandom will fix?
ext_81845: penelope, my art/character (your argument is boring me.)

[identity profile] childings.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:10 am (UTC)(link)
I call bullshit on this secret, and I think the OP is trying to insinuate that heavy involvement in fandom is unhealthy which isn't necessarily true.

Probably a troll trying to be clever

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OP here

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listen to your shrink.

(Anonymous) 2010-06-09 12:11 am (UTC)(link)
I think fandom is not very good for you.

[identity profile] fierceawakening.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:27 am (UTC)(link)
Why is leaving fandom the answer, rather than scaling back?

It's possible you have some kind of unhealthy obsession, but if you're not dead certain you do, taking away one of the things you enjoy seems like a horrible idea. I'd consider very carefully what advice he's giving you and whether he's a good fit for you as a therapist.

[identity profile] demiincarnate.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:31 am (UTC)(link)
You know, assuming said shrink is a qualified doctor, I'd be willing to bet on his judgment. Leave fandom and get your life sorted out. If you still miss it or haven't significantly recovered after leaving for a few months, then you can talk about getting back into it. But it can't hurt to try, and it may help.

[identity profile] gingeynary.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:32 am (UTC)(link)
...you told your shrink about fandom(maybe I'm just too used to lying to mine when my mom used to sit in the sessions with me and you know, break doctor/patient confidentiality)?
Because most people who aren't part of it tend to assume any social interaction with people you've never met on the internet is ~OMG BAD~

But then you might also have a legit problem with it, secret's too vague.

Not OP, but

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[identity profile] piledriver.livejournal.com 2010-06-09 12:36 am (UTC)(link)
>telling your shrink about fanfics

UHM.

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are you female?

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Re: are you female?

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OP

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