[ SECRET POST #1615 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1615 ⌋


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

If you have feelings for someone, then you should never, ever tell them. It's intrusive, and will make the other person uncomfortable, and magically turn them into a villain, and really it's kind of like emotional rape. So, FFS, make yourself fall out of love or something, because you're a terrible person.

[(Anonymous)]

If you -know- the other person doesn't feel that way, then no, you probably shouldn't tell them unless you want them to feel uncomfortable.

I had a friend who decided she was in love with me, which was weird as hell for me because I had a bf and she knew I was happy with him. 6 months later she was over her crush and moved on to someone else. We're still friends, but I can't help think that it was all kind of pointless drama...

[(Anonymous)]

If said person can get over it without telling someone, then maybe you're right. But I've seen my fair share of drama happen because someone fell in love with someone they KNEW they couldn't have and kept it bottled up until it all exploded and not only were relationships with the crusher and crushee involved destroyed, but other relationships were taken out in the wake.

Point is, feelings can be messy and complicated sometimes and yes they can ruin friendships, but sometimes a confession might be a step for someone to move on. But if they don't say anything it might just escalate later on.

Plus some people do end up with people who are otherwise involved, I personally don't appreciate that sort of thing leading to cheating but sometimes you really don't belong with your current bf/gf and need to break up with them and be with someone else. That someone else could be your friend, it's not unheard of.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't like the "emotional rape".
I had a crush on a guy for months, and he asked me once if I had a crush on him and really asked me to tell the truth and I told. He said he was in love with someone else and apologized to me for not returning the feelings but wanted to keep our friendship. I did the only thing I could as a friend. I wished him luck with her. I still have this stupid crush and it still hurts but I try to make everything for him not to notice I still have feeling for him, even if it hurts as hell

SA

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, yeah, that sort of situation sucks. :-/ And I think you've handled it the best way you probably could have, given the givens.

My initial comment was a sarcastic reaction to the people saying how awful it is for someone to tell a friend her/his feelings. They're making it out to be some monstrous, victimizing thing, but it's really not like that at all -- not unless the party with feelings tries to force the other party into something. I also feel that they aren't taking into account the perspective of those such as yourself. Falling in love with a friend is no picnic.

[kallanda-lee.livejournal.com]

It depends. sometimes people are vulnerable. Sometimes there's an imbalance of power. Sometimes you can use a person's good nature to guilt trip them. I'm not saying it equals assault, but saying "I love you" isn't always innocent. It can be used as a way to use, manipulate, or guilt trip someone.

[cousinmary.livejournal.com]

Agreed.