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but i don't really care
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 01:41 am (UTC)(link)no subject
Even if you were inclined to take care of the darn thing - what would you feed it? Coconut juice? There isn't exactly formula available there. So chances are it would die anyway, even if you genuinely tried saving it. I don't know about you, but I wouldn't know how to take care of one even if I wanted to.
Fact is, in a realistic situation, I would not ever care for a kid I didn't want. If I'd get pregnant, I'd abort (which the situation was about in the first place) and if someone else dumped their kid with me, I'd either bring it back to them or drop it off at a police station/foster care facility.
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 02:03 am (UTC)(link)Lol yes it's a really tough hypothetical.
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Do you know what you'd do? It's like those people claiming that they'd know they'd be a hero if they ever witnessed a crime. Nobody knows how they'd act in an extreme situation.
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Unless you'd assume being stranded is a sort of a holiday.
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 03:26 am (UTC)(link)(Answer: Entertainment value)
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 03:21 am (UTC)(link)Anyway, like I said before, I don't honestly think you would kill the baby, and I don't really care about your personal reasoning for it, or that "you're not a sweetheart." The fact that you were dumb enough to say it at all is the point I'm interested in. I mean, damn.
It's also pretty interesting that you're continuing to defend it.
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It's also pretty interesting that you're continuing to defend it.
It's also pretty interesting that you are conveniently leaving out that the "stuck on an island with a baby argument" was actually raised as a point in defending an anti-abortion viewpoint. And damn, some of us feel pretty strongly about that. I also feel very strongly about being forced to take care of a child against my wishes, for any reason whatsoever.
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Good for you for sticking to your guns. This anon is crazypants, and the whole hypothetical is a bullshit disgusting way to make women admit they are nothing but incubators who should be happy to give up 9 months of their lives for the mere potential of another human (who is so much more important, obv).
Even aside from that, though, it's still a stupid, made-up question designed to make you look bad, even though in all actuality nearly every fucking person in that situation would be more concerned about their own survival than a strangers. Fucking human psychology, nobody wants to admit they'd be just as awful as the next person given the right context.
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 02:41 am (UTC)(link)I actually do quite like you most of the time, so cheers.
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Like I said,I do not know what I'd realistically do in that situation, but I get very distressed being so much as in the same room with a baby if they're crying. Last time someone asked me to watch one (and it was just like for 30 minute or so) I sat in the room with my MP3-player plugged in being halfway to hysteria. I just bolted out the second someone else who could take care of it came in. Since then I make a point of not being in that situation again.
If I'd be forced to be in that situation, I honestly don't know how I'd react. Which is generally why I make sure not to be.
I generally wish babies no harm, but I am not actually capable of interacting with them. Which is why the anti-choice stance in the abortion discussion is such a horrible one to me, and any suggestion of being forced to take care of an infant actually evokes very strong emotions..
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 03:07 am (UTC)(link)It's not exactly the same, but I'm terrified of dogs, and wouldn't want to be stuck looking after one.
So no hard feelings?
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I have also put it quite strongly yesterday; and realistically I probably couldn't bring myself to let someone die. But that doesn't mean it would bring me great distress, which is what I was expressing.
I was more or less "forced" to take care of my grandmother on her deathbed when my Mom wasn't around. And while fortunately we had a carer coming to the house to change the diapers and the worst stuff, it still gives me nightmares, even though I loved her to bits. Ever since then I pretty much cringe at the thought of not being able to just walk out and have someone depend on my with their life. I guess that's pretty much my own personal trauma, and it's a large factor in my not having kids.
So anyway, no hard feelings, I hope.
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 03:29 am (UTC)(link)And I'm sorry you had to go through that with your grandmother. I don't blame you for feeling the way you do, after going through that.
So no hard feelings. :)
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I just can't take the hypothetical seriously. I mean, step one is getting stranded on an island. It's just not going to happen. I think people are overestimating how likely plane passengers are to survive a crash in the middle of the ocean near deserted islands (I believe the likelihood would be somewhere in the area of zero, especially for a newborn). And the fact is that in those kinds of situations, ideal morality takes a backseat to survival.
I'm a pretty maternal person with a big soft spot for babies and zero tolerance for people actually harming kids, but this is just ri-goddamn-diculous.
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(Anonymous) 2011-08-17 07:52 am (UTC)(link)I am usually pretty unfazed by all the trollish bullshit on f!s no matter what it's about, and half the time I take the bait in join the wank.
But this shit is making my brain hurt.
Also, actual infanticide? Like you're saying, prooobably best not to get too judgmental about, outside of actual abusive situations where the death is result of some fucked up compulsion, instead of survival. There are still places in the world where it still happens for pretty legit reasons that none of us will ever have to deal with, or for that matter, live with. It's not like it makes happy memories.
How desperate to troll does an anon have to be dig up some weird extension of an abortion debate and accuse someone of actually condoning the murder of infants?