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[ SECRET POST #1690 ]

⌈ Secret Post #1690 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Birdcage]

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[Swan Princess]

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[Yugioh]

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[d.gray-man/katekyo hitman reborn]

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[Natsume Yuujinchou]

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[deus ex]

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[Beelzebub]

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[Leverage]

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[Jon Richardson]

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[Suburban Knights / TGWTG]

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[A Song of Ice and Fire/Game of Thrones]

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[MST3K -- Pumaman]

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[Switched at Birth]

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[Risen: Dark Waters]

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(Family Ties, Out of Practice, Everwood)

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[David Mitchell and Lee Mack]

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32. [SPOILERS for Tinker Tailor Soldier Spy]

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36. [SPOILERS for Rise of the Planet of the Apes]

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37. [SPOILERS for Fringe]

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38. [SPOILERS for Puella Magi Madoka Magica]

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39. [TRIGGER WARNING for child abuse]

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40. [TRIGGER WARNING for self-harm]

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41. [TRIGGER WARNING for rape]

[Rihanna]

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I wouldn't say it's helping...more like distracting.

...Is there really a difference?

I mean, if you're playing video games to ignore your long term goals to deal with depression, yeah, that's a problem, but therapists talk about "coping skills" for a reason. Sometimes something fun is just the pick-me-up somebody needs to make it through the day and do what they have to do, and to me that sounds helpful.

I mean, I had this volume of One Piece in high school that I took everywhere because I loved it to death. My psychologist noticed how much calmer it made me and actually started encouraging me to keep it with me. Between my crappy special education experience and pretty much my entire class hating me, if it hadn't been for some good stories for me to connect with along the way, I may have never graduated.

Just my thoughts. IDK.

That could be true. :( I'm just coping with a lot of things right now (a recent death being one of them), so it helps to blank my mind out when I'm on the verge of just breaking down: I can clear my thoughts and put them back together when I'm calmer. In a way, you could call that helping.

That it's distraction doesn't mean that it can't also be helpful. If a suicidal person can distract themselves with a movie or a game or something and keep themselves from acting on their suicidal feelings, that is awesome. It's also a great way to handle the first couple of weeks before a new antidepressant kicks in and starts working.

However, if you have a form of depression that isn't cyclical and doesn't get better with time, relying only on distraction can just get you into a worse situation. You still need some other kind of treatment, even if it's just therapy to give you more skills and tools to deal with the depression.

Best of luck to you, OP.

I hear you, OP. Lately games are the only thing that have made me happy.

I hope things get better for you, too.

I love that game :D I'm glad that it's helping you, OP. Stay strong, ok? Whatevers going on in your life, you can get through it. Games are a great way to get a bit of relief every once in a while, but remember that there are always people who will be willing to talk to you and help you out there. :)

Thank you. I know we're complete strangers, but hearing that is really comforting, and it's nice that there's people out there like you who are willing to give such kind words to people they don't even know. I honestly expected nothing but derision for posting this secret, so... having people actually react so kindly is really inspiring.

I can understand this. At least the characters in the game are acomplishing something, and it's nice when you feel you're part of it. I hope things get better for you.

That's a lot of it, haha. It's... progress, feeling like getting things done, and it's a nice distraction.

Thank you.

Hmm, I get the feeling. Video games helped me a lot during my depression (Mario 64, mostly, but HM is a good game; it's just sweet and simple, isn't it?) . But do keep going to therapy and get medication if you can- too much of one thing will become harmful too.

Yeah, I know. :( A lot of it is that I kind of had a crappy therapist (and I was on medication for some time). Unfortunately I'm not really in the best situation to get a new therapist right now. Thank you.

...As someone who had depression for 2.5 years and who relapsed a couple of years' ago... I kind of believe that you still need therapy. I'm not trying to be patronising but ime therapy helps combat the problem by facing it head on and allowing you to view your life from different perspectives whereas constant video game play just represses the problem to the back of your mind where it sits and and doesn't go anywhere. I'm not saying give up gaming cold turkey cos that's not helpful either, but I would ease yourself off a bit in tiny steps and still go to therapy, take meds, exercise and keep up healthy diet.

A couple of years' ago I relapsed while I was in the middle of my school semester and honestly, it wasn't video games that saved me, it was the school counsellor.

Don't worry, you're not coming off as patronizing, and I appreciate your advice!

I still could use it, yeah. Part of why I say it helped more than my therapist did is that my therapist wasn't very good (at least, for me). Unfortunately I'm not in a situation to get a new one -- I'm still having financial trouble from the last one due to tremendous fuckups by the company that handled their billing. Hopefully I can go back to therapy and get a better therapist in the future.

Thank you for your advice, I appreciate you taking the time to help out a total stranger.

That's ok no problem =) I'm sorry to hear about the therapist being not very good and the financial fuck-ups - that's the last thing you need (financial problems can drag me right back down). I really hope it works out for you, honestly.

There is nothing wrong with running away to a alternate world that brings you happiness as long as it also gives you the strength to face the hardships in this one.

In a world were it seems so much easier just to throw "happy pills" at people and their problems I think is says volumes about a person's inner strength to find comfort outside these means.

You can make it, OP.

Thank you for your kind words.

I wouldn't knock the happy pills, though! Considering I have been on them and they did help to some extent, though they didn't really work out for me - my psychiatrist was a really good guy who heavily emphasized pairing therapy with medicine. And some people just can't deal with it on their own and literally need medication like that to give them the will to live, because their depression is so soulcrushingly consuming otherwise. Sometimes it's just a necessity. That isn't me, but I have known people with depression that severe.

Though I'm sure there's some doctors that do just throw pills at a person and assume that'll make all the difference, it shouldn't be discredited or anything! :)

I know there are those that pills are immensely helpful for and that is all good and well but then it seems like there are a much larger number of people that just believe taking pills will solve all their problems.

It's a deep and touchy subject to be sure and I'm not trying to make light of anyone's problems. It was just nice to see something that struck a chord with how I also try and deal with things sometimes. When most would look at "Running away" as a weakness I say anything that beings you happiness is a strength all on its own.

Have you ever tried any of the "Rune Factory" Harvest Moons? I very much enjoy those too =)

Yeah, I figured you weren't trying to make light of it or anything, I just have run into people who believe that pills are inherently bad or that everyone can push through depression without them. Not saying you think that! It's obvious you don't, I just have seen that attitude sometimes so I try to emphasize wherever I can that while pills are often overprescribed, there are scenarios where they can be necessary or just outright helpful.

I've played the first one for DS, it was fun! I haven't tried the others yet though, maybe I should.

Right, it really is a case by case basis with most things like that. :)

If you enjoyed the first one then you'd definitely like the 2nd! I'm playing the 3rd one right now and it's a different main character but it's pretty good so far!

I've found games to be great time wasters in times in my life where I've had nothing to do but wait. Like in times when "only time can heal the pain." or forced to wait weeks for a test result or verdict. Waiting and doing nothing is so agonizing and playing games really helped calm me down. People argued, "Get a hobby." but gaming is my hobby of choice.

I can relate. :(

It's really creepy that for the past two weeks I've been constantly playing Harvest Moon 64 in order to escape reality.

It's just so soothing. Plant your crops, brush your animals, give your girl a flower. And you're doing great.

I hope things get better for you OP, and I totally understand video games being able to distract you from really bad thoughts and feelings.

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