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fandomsecrets2012-01-12 07:35 pm
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[ SECRET POST #1836 ]
⌈ Secret Post #1836 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[Star Wars: the Old Republic]
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[seth macfarlane]
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[Honey, I Shrunk the Kids!]
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[Cassandra Cain & Tim Drake (Batman)]
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[David Archuleta]
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[Ran to Haiiro no Sekai]
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[Black Lagoon]
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[Terra Nova]
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[Digimon]
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[Transformers: Animated]
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[Death Note]
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[Bomb Girls]
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[Once Upon a Time]
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[Dexter]
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Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 033 secrets from Secret Submission Post #262.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 1 2 3 4 5 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 01:47 am (UTC)(link)My SO is not a serial murderer, nor does he have plans to murder anyone. Just to clarify.
It's more the one sided affection, dedication, coupled with manipulation that I relate to. I think if people knew how he treated me behind closed doors, they wouldn't want to be around me anymore... That's the gist of it.
Thanks for the advice about seeking support online. I wouldn't know where to look, though.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 01:54 am (UTC)(link)no subject
(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 02:02 am (UTC)(link)http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/leaving-an-abusive-relationship-and-learning-to-let-go-f43.html (http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/leaving-an-abusive-relationship-and-learning-to-let-go-f43.html)
Ultimately, it's up to you whether or not you want to leave this catastrophe of a relationship, but considering it a wonderful thing...really isn't a wonderful thing.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 02:16 am (UTC)(link)I don't think leaving is something I'd immediately consider... But maybe I should think on it more seriously.
Thank you again for the practical help.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 02:20 am (UTC)(link)Hugs, and I hope you get out soon. <3
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 02:51 am (UTC)(link)This.
OP, I know it's all your decision to make and I hope I don't sound patronizing, but I just want you to know that you deserve much better than this. Please get out and don't put up with anyone who treats you like that. I wish you the best. *hugs*
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Typically when a person talks about "a side of (their partner) that others never see" it usually means they're kind of an asshole outside who's sweet in private or they're a seemingly-nice person who is abusive in private. You seem to be using it in the second sense. If that's true, your friends should not judge you for that, and if they aren't horrible human beings then they won't. Victim blaming does happen but it's wrong. You're not in any way responsible for "letting" your boyfriend treat you that way. It's entirely his fault.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 03:04 am (UTC)(link)Ok, I have had family members suffer from abusive relationships so this is near and dear to my heart, sorry if I ramble!
It's very natural for people in a abusive relationships (whether emotional or otherwise) feel dependent. My favorite aunt was in one herself, and only found the strength to leave when her husband almost hit their eldest daughter. It's a tough thing, and the abuser plays so many mind games that to wake up and walk out is about the only thing you can do to be healthy again.
If you trust and love your friends, or have family you feel will support you, I suggest utilizing that resource as a rallying system. Love only feeds the soul and makes life better when it's healthy, otherwise you can find yourself losing pieces of yourself into you don't know who YOU are anymore. Misa was a popular girl who lost everything, I don't want you to end up the same way OP.
My aunt who I mentioned has a pretty awesome life many (many) years later, is a highly paid consultant in her field and has recently had a lot of fun dying her hair blond and going on a tour of the wine country and blogging about it under a character name she invented for her newly-blond self. ;) This is years later, and she is one of the most fun and life-loving people I know, even while recovering from a dangerous form of cancer. She has always been a strong person, she just had to discover that for herself.
So don't let yourself think this is the end of anything except a poisonous relationship. Think of it as going on a exciting new adventure with who-knows-what in the future.
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(Anonymous) 2012-01-13 08:22 pm (UTC)(link)