[ SECRET POST #1891 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1891 ⌋


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Comments

[hoggle2807.livejournal.com]

I'm sorry, I just find the whole "it's like assault!" to be gross. Because it's fiction, and you are not really being assaulted.

[(Anonymous)]

No, that's fine- I read that as 'when I am in character, my character feels like this is assault, and then he cries because he's triggered by his past sexual experiences (which is entirely theorizing and extrapolation on this anon's part). Please stop.'

[kindlycoyote.livejournal.com]

Sorry, I have to disagree in part (assaulted is perhaps a bit strong of a word, but as someone who as RPed and been harassed ICly it sure feels that way sometimes). In fact I was about to type a response to the OP about how I was in a RP experience remarkably similar, and the guy was pressuring my character into sex no matter how much OOCly I told him that I was uncomfortable with his character doing that. Wait, let me see if I can find a article I read once that fit my own situation and sounds a tiny bit like the OP's.

http://wow.joystiq.com/2010/04/25/all-the-worlds-a-stage-getting-too-attached-to-a-character/#continued

Look at the replies too. I am not saying the OP's situation is as extreme as the person writing in was, but pressuring someone to engage in something they are uncomfortable with (whether it is because of time or otherwise) is sleezy. Whether it is done OOCly or ICly. In roleplay, some people are in it for cybering and do not respect the feelings of those who aren't. At the very least, this is selfishness, and the most, it is sexual harassment.

OP, you need to lay down the law. Tell this person it is making you uncomfortable, and tell them to stop it. If they make protests based on how their character is, tell them you are willing to RP a resolution ICly. (Basically, do a little mini-plot where you character breaks and confronts the character on the way they behave, and have the other character come to a understanding even if it is 'if I dont stop, this person will break my fingers'.) If they still protest, drop 'em. You can find a new RP partner and trust me, it is NEVER worth the stress.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know. When I was a kid (13), I had a friend who I'd talk with on the phone and after a while, she began making sexual comments any time we were on the phone. At first, she'd let it go when I told her to stop but she became more and more pushy about it and criticized me for not wanting to have phone sex.

It might seem silly because OP's talking about a conversation in character but I know that that kind of thing feels like harassment when you're on the receiving end of it.