[ SECRET POST #1950 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1950 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 06 pages, 122 secrets from Secret Submission Post #279.
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Comments

[fscom.livejournal.com]

04. http://i46.tinypic.com/hx3z39.jpg

[schizophrenic0.livejournal.com]

I've been there, anon. I say reach out to her. Tell her how much you like her work and just try to get a conversation going. You may not become close friends, but you won't become friends by shying away either. If she's active in fandom she probably won't find it strange that you talk to her.

[megalomaniageek.livejournal.com]

OK so two things, which are related:
1. From the outside at least you appear to be approaching with a feeling of fan worship, which is difficult to build an equal friendship on
2. It's very hard to become friends with somebody when you know who they are but they don't know who you are

Figure out your honest feelings about this person. Why is this person "amazing"? Is it because their work is really top tier, or because the personality they put forward is the kind of personality you want in a friend? Is your interest in them as a person, genuinely, or in their persona or an idea of them, or in a feeling of being starstruck?

Assuming you are referring to this person's personality and you want to actually be friends with the real person: Try reaching out. A good, easy way is through reviews and such; be in-depth, and separate yourself from the simple "I liked it" crowd - don't come off as just a fan of theirs, be a fellow fan of the work who wants to appreciate it with them. Do they participate at all in discussions? This is also a good way to reach out. Do they have a tumblr? Submit an ask.

You can also have a more student-teacher/mentor-protege/etc relationship if your admiration is primarily of the person's work. This is a way to have friendship but have it focused on a subject besides complimentary personalities, and inequalities in the relationship aren't toxic.

[anonlulz.livejournal.com]

Just talk to her, she's a human being, too.

[la-petite-singe.livejournal.com]

Oh man, that's me all the time. I think that's a lot of us.

[kelincihutan.livejournal.com]

Review some of her stuff. Not like all of it all at once, but a good few. And don't be afraid to offer concrit, because that indicates you looked at her work with your brain engaged, which is an enormous compliment. If she's a member of any not-enormous comms on LJ or DW or wherever, try joining those and being a genuinely active member (i.e., don't just internet stalk her, but participate in the comm).

You know. The usual stuff.

[(Anonymous)]

LOL, I actually did this once, and we're really great friends now. I mean, I felt pretty creepy while I was getting her attention and interacting with her, but, you know what, I got over my complete infatuation with her and that's when we really kicked it off...now she's my closest online friend.

*shrugs* You never know. Leave thoughtful comments on her posts(fic, whatever) that encourage a response, and keep doing so 'till you actually get to know her. Then decide how much you like her and if you really want to be friends.

[(Anonymous)]

This, though I never felt particularly creepy, because, hey, we're all dorks here (the most awesome dorks ever). I reviewed her stuff and offered to beta for her because I live in the city where the story was based. She's a definite bestie now and one of the few people in life where I feel completely comfortable.

I say go for it, anon. Tell her you think she's cool and that you think the two of you have something in common.

[drunken-clowns.livejournal.com]

I did this once (though it was for her original fiction, not fanstuff) and we're actually good friends now.

I think you should try to talk to her. As long as you don't act like somebody's number 1 fan in a stalker song, you probably won't seem weird! Just keep contributing your own stuff to the fandom, and don't get clingy if she doesn't seem to want to talk. BNFs are people too, and if you make a good first impression, then even if she doesn't want to talk right away you've got a better shot at her wanting to talk later, if you're both active in the same fandom and whatnot.

[(Anonymous)]

Um, I disagree, BNFs are stuck up snobs
They're nice to you one day, the next they don't even want to know you. I am speaking from experience

[(Anonymous)]

How many BNFs have you had this experience with?

[drunken-clowns.livejournal.com]

People who think of themselves as BNFs, maybe.

People who are just good at making things and reasonably prolific about it, and who get a lot of fandom attention because people like what they do? Not really.

[(Anonymous)]

BNFs are individual people as opposed to one collective entity. As individual people, they can fall anywhere along the spectrum of asshattery.

And you don't seem like you'd come down clearly on the "pleasure to know" side, either.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, I'm still recovering from a BNF abandoning me the way she did.

[(Anonymous)]

Don't bother with her anon, move.on. BNF'S are stuck up snobs, been there done that

[(Anonymous)]

Wow.

Bitter, party of one, your table is ready.

[(Anonymous)]

My advice? Just talk to her like a human being. I've actually become good friends with a BNF in one of my most adored fandoms just from trying to get to know her beyond just her lovely fics. If the BNF you admire has original works, look at them too and don't be afraid to talk to them about those as well. I promise that not all BNFs bite.

[bleed-peroxide.livejournal.com]

Just talk to her, honestly. I mean, fuck, a lot of my friends that I know IRL now were people that I met online, and discovered by talking to them like they were human (because lolol they are) that they were local.

Just... talk to the person. They're human, not a god.

[(Anonymous)]

Say 'hi' sometime. Look, maybe you'll become disillusioned, that's always a danger when getting to know people you respect, but there are plenty of people who accidentally become BNFs who are pretty cool and wish other people weren't afraid of talking to them. If you're a fan of their fanworks, then you probably have a few common interests, right? It's an ice-breaker, anyway.

And good luck! (I wish I could figure out what fandom or who the person is, I'm intrigued trying to guess based on the pic, but it's probably a fandom I'm not involved in...)