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honest question, f!s - what bra size am I? I've never found a bra that fits in my entire adult life. all the measurement charts out there give me a negative, or put me in a size that doesn't fit when I actually try it on. either the cups fit but the band is suffocatingly tight, or the band fits and the cups are way too huge. there's never any middle ground.

my measurements:

overbust: 35"
bust: 34"
underbust: 33"

Have you gone to a store and had a person actually fit you? That makes all the difference in the world.

yep, but they put me in a size that was really uncomfortable. it felt like it was crushing my ribs and i had red welts from the underwire. never went back again because when i said it was uncomfortable she was like "no no this is definitely your size, trust me, it'll really help out the girls" :/

This may not be want you want hear :( but when I finally got fitted for a bra after losing some weight, I had the same experience. For about two weeks, the bras were really uncomfortable, felt like they were crushing my ribs because the bra was actually tight enough for the middle part to sit flush on my chest and separate my boobs like it's supposed to. And then the discomfort gradually went away. I had been so used to wearing looser bras (I was too high on the band size and too low on the cup size) that wearing the ones that fit were really uncomfortable at first. But then I got used to it and it was okay.

I totally understand, though, if you're just not willing to deal with that level of discomfort (at least initially).

Have you tried other bra styles in the size that was recommended to you? Maybe one without an underwire?

i've tried a ton of different styles. not many without underwire though?

maybe i'll try that. try the size she recommended but with no underwire so at least that part of the discomfort's gone and see if it stretches out a bit. see if i get used to it. i just didn't think you had to break in bras like shoes.

*hugs*

I really hope you find something that works for you. I know how irritating it can be when nothing is fitting correctly.

I also have friends who have tried that Genie bra that is always being advertised on TV, and they love it. I haven't tried it myself, but it's gotten good reviews from several friends. That one has no underwire but is supposed to be really supportive.

Something seems off with those measurements...

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "overbust". Usually you measure around your chest RIGHT below where your breasts are, where the band will sit. You want to breathe out and basically make yourself as small as possible when you take that measurement (according to this site (http://www.herroom.com/bra-fitting-advice,901,30.html)) and round up to the nearest whole number. Make sure the tape measure is parallel to the ground.

Then you measure again, again with the tape parallel to the ground, right where your nipples are. Don't squeeze it tight, just have the tape taut.

Then you subtract your band size from your breast size and how many inches difference there are gives you your cup size-- GENERALLY.

Bras are like shoes. It's not just about the size of them, it's also about the cut of them, the shape, so what fits you well in one size in one style/brand may be too big or small in another. You will have to spend some time trying them on.

So you want a band that fits snugly (but isn't cutting off circulation; it will likely leave a bit of a mark when you take it off but it oughtn't leave a great red welt), and it should fit snugly when it's on the loosest set of hooks. If you need to tighten it up past there then go to a smaller size. That way, as the elastic stretches out, you can move to tighter hooks. Incidentally, all bras should be either drip-dried, or dried on low heat; it's the heat of the dryer that makes the elastic deteriorate.

The cups ought to contain your breasts nicely without spillage over the sides, or wrinkles in the fabric. Wrinkles mean the cup size is too large (or the cut is wrong); spillage means the cup is too small. You shouldn't have any spillage anywhere, even under your arms, and the straps should not dig into your shoulders. If a bra doesn't wrinkle or have spillage or dig in but still just isn't comfortable, then try a different cut. If all our tits were the same shape then bras would be easy! :-) But they aren't, no more than our butts are, and you have to try different styles the same as you do jeans.

Me, I cannot stand underwires. >< They dig in, and hurt, and I have only ever found ONE bra in my life that had an underwire that was comfortable-- and then the wire got bent, and no matter what, I couldn't make it right again. Ended up taking them out, but the bra didn't sit right without it. So maybe look into no-underwire bras. You don't have the same selection, but I certainly find them a lot more comfortable!!

I'm really puzzled by what you mean by "bust" and "overbust" though. "Bust" usually means right at the nipples, and to me, "overbust" means a corset that covers the tits over the nipples, if not higher. I've never heard of it in relation to any kind of a measurement. So I'm not sure if you have 1" of difference (which would be an A cup) or 2" (which would be a B cup).

Keep looking, and don't get discouraged! It took me years (decades, even) to find a bra that was both comfortable and made my tits look good, but I did it-- and with a $20 bra from Fields, too! I own five or six of them now. Once you do find one that fits, buy a few of them; the last thing you want is to go in to replace your favourite bra only to find that the line has been discontinued!

Good luck!! (also that shop keeper was an idiot. If it isn't comfortable then it isn't the right size, no matter what the measurements say! Same thing as with shoes. Sheesh.)

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