[ SECRET POST #1979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1979 ⌋

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[(Anonymous)]

Has anyone ever been confused about their sexuality only to come to the conclusion that they're really straight? I feel like I'm doing it wrong.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm sure it's happened / it happens to a lot of people, but since it can be considered a private topic / taboo / embarrassing most people don't talk about it, giving the illusion that everyone springs into the world with their sexuality well defined forever and ever.

[(Anonymous)]

No, def happens! not to me (not because I was never confused but because I'm not straight) but to other people I know, especially in their teens, and it's usually the confusion between 'I feel close/attracted to this person, is this love/do I want to get into their pants/what exactly is going on here'.

Sexuality (for me) refers to basically what you'd tap, and romantic/sexual orientations might not necessarily align, in cases like that it's common to be kind of confused

how/what were you confused about though, anon? I'd like to know what it was like in your case

[(Anonymous)]

I'm late in replying to this and you may not see it, but...

It sounds stupid to me explaining it, but basically when I was a teenager and talking about husbands/babies/white picket fences, it just never appealed to me. Then I got my first boyfriend, a super conservative Christian, who wanted to get married at 18 and start having kids, and when I said I didn't want any part of that, he broke up with me. And I started thinking "well, I don't want a husband and kids, so maybe that means I'm a lesbian", but I didn't actually want a relationship with a woman either.

It took me entirely too long to realize that just because I didn't want the type of relationship with a guy that I was raised to think I should want didn't mean I wasn't straight. Right now I'm single and don't want to be in a relationship anytime soon but when I imagine a hypothetical future relationship, it's with a guy.

I realize this all probably sounds ridiculous, but I blame it on being raised in the south with this very conservative, Christian, traditional small-town mentality. Like, I honestly didn't realize until just recently that there are other options than meet a guy, get married, have a bunch of kids. But just in the past year or two my worldview/outlook on relationships has opened up so much, and I realize there are so many different options, and enough people out there that I don't think it's impossible to find someone who wants the same things I do.

All that said, while I've never been interested in a woman thus far, I'm not ruling out the possibility that it might happen someday, because who knows what the future holds?

(Hopefully this all makes some kind of sense...I'm running on far too little sleep here!)

[(Anonymous)]

and that should "when I was a teenager and everyone else was talking about..."

[(Anonymous)]

www.darcomic.com

The woman who made this comic sorta had this happen. She has a specific one somewhere that goes over her sexuality specifically over time, but she talks about it heavily in this conclusion comic on the main page.

[(Anonymous)]

oh man, not op but I hadn't seen this before and it's fantastic

this is EXACTLY what I went through some time back, but not all of it, I was stuck at the self-loathing and confused stage recently and felt like I was betraying a lot of people and very unhappy at myself and it's really sort of a relief to know that someone else has felt that way too

thank you for linking this, anon

[(Anonymous)]

Anon from above:

No problem! I saw her talk at a webcomics con and I had never heard of her before that. She was amazing and I think that her experiences can totally help some people out. I may not have gone through it or understand it perfectly, but whatever I can do to help people be happy with themselves seems worth it.

[(Anonymous)]

It definitely happens. I don't think you can do self discovery wrong? I mean, it's a journey that is sometimes a circular loop, but a journey that must be taken all the same.