[ SECRET POST #1979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1979 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

yes to the far too often thing! I mean ideally that shouldn't happen and I am very ok with kink but people are people and dob or sub can and will fail at things, but this is like not really talked about a lot ): and sometimes it seems like doms are just expected to know things or know best and this is not really good, I feel

I haven't read the 3rd book yet (only just got the 2nd) but from what you said - going into bdsm then associating it then wanting to toss it out, then anna helping him through that, that actually sounds... surprisingly ok in terms of how its treating things, like you can separate out this stuff and all

idk though? I might be wrong here, haha

[elialshadowpine]

Speaking as a switch who has been both sub and dom depending on situation -- yeah, I think that "fail" has to be accounted for, because nobody is perfect all the time, and people fuck up. I've admittedly fucked up. "The dom should know best" is -- hrm. I can see where you're coming from, and I think there should be more support for doms to learn and get experience, but at the same time, a dom does need to know more because they are the one who is getting the emotional and physical safety of their sub put in their hands. It's a huge amount of trust.

But a lot of what I was talking about wasn't just people failing in certain situations, which happens, but people who take advantage of others. :-\

The "BDSM because of abuse" is admittedly a pet peeve of mine, because I get really sick and tired of seeing my lifestyle vilified as something that only happens because of abuse -- and very often, even in books that are otherwise positive portrayals of BDSM, abuse is mentioned as a reason why the character is into it. It gets old. But that's more a complaint in general than this particular book; it was just one more thing that annoyed the heck out of me. ;)