[ SECRET POST #1979 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1979 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[elialshadowpine]

Speaking as a switch who has been both sub and dom depending on situation -- yeah, I think that "fail" has to be accounted for, because nobody is perfect all the time, and people fuck up. I've admittedly fucked up. "The dom should know best" is -- hrm. I can see where you're coming from, and I think there should be more support for doms to learn and get experience, but at the same time, a dom does need to know more because they are the one who is getting the emotional and physical safety of their sub put in their hands. It's a huge amount of trust.

But a lot of what I was talking about wasn't just people failing in certain situations, which happens, but people who take advantage of others. :-\

The "BDSM because of abuse" is admittedly a pet peeve of mine, because I get really sick and tired of seeing my lifestyle vilified as something that only happens because of abuse -- and very often, even in books that are otherwise positive portrayals of BDSM, abuse is mentioned as a reason why the character is into it. It gets old. But that's more a complaint in general than this particular book; it was just one more thing that annoyed the heck out of me. ;)