[ SECRET POST #1981 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #1981 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Not gonna lie, bisexuals tend to be misunderstood by straight and gay people. Everyone seems to have an idea on whether it's possible/impossible and how it's supposed to "work" (i.e. "must be 50/50! otherwise not real") But that, of course, is bullshit - I never was, and I imagine never will be, as often attracted to women as I am to men, but it's meaningless - I AM bi, and it IS what I am (as my gf would be happy to confirm...)

I think you shouldn't block this part of you for sake of convenience, and wish you luck and strentgh when dealing with the idiots you're likely to encounter in the process...

[(Anonymous)]

DA

This reminds me of the old trap bisexuals seem to fall into:

If you're in a relationship with a member of the same-sex, you're SECONDS away from cheating on them with a member of the opposite sex; if you're in a relationship with the opposite sex, there's no way you were actually bisexual and it was just a phase.

Screwed if you do, screwed if you don't. *Sigh*

[(Anonymous)]

LOL, so true (yeah, lol, better laugh than cry over this; at this point I just stopped giving a damn). There's all that - the "inability to remain faithful", the "you're just not willing to admit you're gay" (usually coming from lesbians) and "it's just a phase" (usually from straight) and of course the "aren't you getting confused" (from everyone.

So not confused here...

[(Anonymous)]

Don't forget "you are just saying that for attention," with the lesbians thinking you are het and trying to appropriate their cause and the straight dudes thinking you are just trying to titillate them.

[(Anonymous)]

Right on! How could I forget the accusations of appropriation ;)

DA

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not a big fan of PDA regardless of the gender of the person I'm dating but when I was dating another woman I had a lesbian tell me I was doing it for the attention. I was confused as it is difficult for a casual observer to even tell if I'm dating someone and she said that I was trying to add an air of mystery to my fake bisexuality. I am still very confused over that!

[(Anonymous)]

Or how about "you just want to be able to fuck everybody"?

That always seemed weird to me. No one is going to be able to fuck EVERYBODY. And bisexuals probably don't have any more sexual partners than straight and gay people on average. It's just a matter of attraction.

[(Anonymous)]

I identify as bisexual and have had far less g/b friends than my friends and yet they still think of me as the 'slutty' friend.

[broadwaybabe11.livejournal.com]

I sort of fall under this stereotype.. lol I have a large sex drive and I'm not against sleeping with a lot of people.
Sorry to all bis for reinforcing this stereotype a little bit >.> At least my boyfriend who is bi is the COMPLETE opposite.

[(Anonymous)]

can i just throw out a general apology for the attitude even existing? it's really just one fabulous way of keeping people from uniting and working together for equal rights and such. so i'm sorry that this happens.

[elialshadowpine]

lol, yes.

I'm poly so I basically get labeled a greedy slut.

[(Anonymous)]

I was in an exclusive relationship with the same two people for five years and still had to deal with that attitude from casual friends.

A friend of mine really believed that because I had two relationships at the same time I was somehow more sexually promiscuous than her even though she had eight relationships in the course of one year because each of her relationships were separate and distinct?

[broadwaybabe11.livejournal.com]

This attitude floors me.
My best friend has this attitude and will talk about monogamy constantly like it's great. And compares humans to birds often. And gets pissed off when I point out that monogamy is not culturally universal among humans and that humans really practice serial monogamy, which is nothing like what bird species practice.
I'm not poly, I'm open (so maybe that does make me promiscuous) but I am tired of this idealization of serial monogamy. It's not what it is made out to be.

[anonymouslyyours]

I got the bird analogy from a relative once. All I said was, "Cool. I'll remember that the next time I'm a bird".

[(Anonymous)]

bravo

[(Anonymous)]

Ugh, this. When this bi anon goes looking for a serious relationship with a woman, I often just label myself as lesbian so it does seem like I'm looking for something serious, not just casual sex.
I feel that the media's tendancy to only show bisexual women who are more seriously interested in men (like Lady Gaga and Thirteen from House) adds to the stereotype

[(Anonymous)]

Though 13 does have a serious relationship with a woman, so as far as she's concerned, I was pleasantly surprised with the presentation of her bi-sexuality...

[(Anonymous)]

I was quite bummed when an Lgbt-themed reviewer I used to like enforced this bi-phobic bs about it having to be 50/50.

[(Anonymous)]

My favorite is "does that mean you want to date a woman too?" (Asked by someone when I got together with my husband.) No. No it doesn't. It means that if I break up with my current partner, I'm open to my next partner being of either gender. Bi =/= poly.

[thene]

Oh anon.

I once got that one from my mother-in-law.

[broadwaybabe11.livejournal.com]

OMG yes. My bf was talking to his excoworkers one day. He is bi, and he was asked the same thing! "Is your girlfriend ok with the fact that you have a boyfriend!" LOL. She knew about me and just assumed he had a boyfriend as well. Wtf.